I completely agree. I have participated in such meetings, and have also led them for mission committees at churches where I've been asked to recommend new partnerships. It's surprising that so many churches have not had the opportunity for open, safe discussion before. It's so important for building community.
Healthy Decision Making
Today I read a blog from Susan Nienaber at the Alban Institute that clearly communicated some healthy ways to handle controversial decisions in a church. Instead of lining people in rows in the sanctuary and letting the most vocal air their beliefs, consider gathering a planning group of a few members to outline a process whereby people can gather in small groups and discuss the possibilities in a way that enhances dialogue, discernment, and better decision making. I hope you find this blog helpful as you think about decisions that are ahead for your congregation in the New Year. Merry Christmas!
our church has had what the elders called "congregational conversations", and they went very well, even over some issues that had a lot of potential for division. These "conversations" were well led, and far more informal than a congregational mtg. We did break into smaller groups, and I believe it was a very positive experience for the congregation. Open communication is so important. Once people perceive that something might being brushed aside (even if that's not the case), to avoid discussion, that generally makes things worse. Mis perceptions and misunderstandings are one of the enemy's key ways of bringing division, so when we can openly and lovingly discuss potential issues, it is huge in helping prevent strife. The presence/leading and guiding of the Holy Spirit is of course key. I know we know that and we pray that He does, but so often when we get into the discussion we can tend to end up leaning on our own understanding.