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guest blog by David Morstad, Executive Director of the Bethesda Institute

The buzz words have been around for decades: “age appropriate activities.” Simply put, we all choose activities and learning environments based on our age. If our adult Bible study time included activities suitable for third-grade students, few of us would tolerate it for very long before we started looking for the door.

Sadly though, adults with developmental disabilities are often not so fortunate. Teaching activities in some environments include music and craft projects that would be very much at home among young children. Caring, well-meaning teachers make the best decisions they can, of course, and let’s face it, our historical misunderstanding of disabilities has done little to help the situation.

While its popularity is waning rapidly, it is still not unusual to hear people refer to the “mental age” of someone with a disability, e.g., “He’s forty years old but he functions at the level of a five-year-old.” The concept of mental age is meaningless and has never been a legitimate means of measuring anything about a person. All it does is perpetuate the myth that the adult with an intellectual disability is still, to some extent, not fully adult.

As teachers, it is important to be mindful of this concept simply because it can help guide effective teaching activities.

Adults with disabilities are adults

When we see people struggling against learning barriers, we may be tempted to conclude that they are simply “stuck” at a child’s level of development. They’re not. They are adults who are facing particular learning barriers in their lives.

Most learning is sequential with one thing leading naturally to the next. When adults with developmental disabilities get caught in the activities of endless elementary school it puts boundaries on their world and limits their experiences. When that happens, learning slows down.

People with disabilities not only deserve full access to their community and their world but learning improves when that exposure happens.

A question of dignity

Engaging adults in children’s activities carries with it a loss of personal dignity. Our actions send the message that people with disabilities are different from the rest of us and that we simply do not expect them to learn much. In turn, that affects the way in which we, and others around us, interact with them.

The world is full of highly capable, non-disabled people who aren’t particularly good at doing their taxes or balancing their check books. How often are they described as having “the arithmetic age of a 12-year-old?” We wouldn’t dream of it! Rather, we view them as complete people, worthy of our respect, who have skills in some areas of their lives and seek the assistance of others where they need to. Adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities deserve the same consideration.

Comments

Every time I see "Speclal Olympics" I think "Special Spelling Bee." It is mental capacity that defines "adult," not physical ability. if physical ability defines "adult" then, using the same logic, the age of consent should also be defined in terms of plysical ability and not chronological age.

Mark Stephenson on September 3, 2013

In reply to by anonymous_stub (not verified)

Bill, I disagree. You mention physical ability and mental capacity as ways to define adult, but in Canada and the US we define "adult" by chronological age. When someone reaches 18 or 21 (depending on what responsibilities are granted) we call them "adults." To put a 10-year-old in the nursery, or a 12-year-old in a Sunday School class for 3rd graders does these individuals a great disservice. Likewise, baby-talking to people who are in their 40's. We need to treat people who are of age as adults. Sure if an adult has intellectual disability, we do Bible Study on a level that he or she understands, but surely not have him sit in a Sunday School class with little kids.

This may be a bit off-topic - I agree with what has been expressed in this article. However, there is another side to it. When I think of "age appropriate" activities, sometimes I think that adults limit themselves by definitions of what adult appropriate activities are. I've had the wonderful privilege of leading support groups, and various small groups over the years. Much insight has been gained by spending time coloring with crayons, playing with play dough, clipping from magazines to make a self-portrait collage, or doing things like "describe your relationship with the Lord using chenille stems" (AKA pipe cleaners). Recently I observed my 6 mos. old granddaughter grabbing and playing with the table cloth at the restaurant where we were eating (threatening to severely disrupt our table) and then she leaned over to take a taste of it, chomping down on the side of the table (everything goes in her mouth for a taste). We all laughed at her antics. But I thought how little adults explore their world through their God-given sense of taste - maybe that's a good thing. But maybe it's not such a good thing that we, as adults, limit ourselves in how we explore our world, and our faith to socially accepted adult activities. Perhaps we have lost some of the childlike wonder and curiosity about our world that comes from exploration using all of our senses. Perhaps we all need to take more time to stop and smell the roses, or to sit down and color with crayons for awhile.

Mark Stephenson on September 4, 2013

In reply to by anonymous_stub (not verified)

Thanks Bonnie. You provide another good reason why it would be good for adults with intellectual disabilities to be with the adults without disabilities in Sunday school classes and other activities. My experience with adults who have intellectual disabilities is that many of them are much less limited by adult conventions than we who call ourselves nondisabled.

Thank you Bonnie and Mark. As an Expreesive Artist I have gained much insight  from collaging  images.  I would encourage non-disabled adults to participate in childlike activities  so that they can experience the freedom and wonder of God.

I envy those with childlike eyes their ability to simply experience the wonders of God.  And not get entangled in appearances. 

It seems to be a habit for many people like myself to talk louder when one's message doesn't seem to be understood. Long time ago I had to talk with a stranger who was in a wheel chair and had MS or maybe something worse. After a short time he said, "Just because I am disabled it doesn't mean that I am stupid." This was an imprtant lesson for me. This concept needs to be applied to all "disability" legislation and regualtons. "Hard cases make bad laws." 

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