As a believer with a chronic illness, I crave pastoral care but recieve very little because I don't attend our church very often. I get depressed and angry at my life situation then turn to Jesus for support. Jesus is suffient for what I deserve but I still long for contact with fellow believers. I have a lot of experience in depths of suffering which has shapped my opinions and fostered a understanding of what is really important. I would like to tell people if I could find someone interested enough to listen. People can find empathy in crisis but long term relations are difficult. Pastoral care is a two way street.
People act as if caring is a pain because they think they are the one's doing the giving without any return. If you do pastoral care with this attitude, you won't receice a mutual benefit.
This sad fact won't change unless people are filled with the love of God. I don't see anything happening from my observations of this site. People are in a state survival in their own interests. I would love to help but when are less than whole, not many people take you seriously. This is sad because the scriptures say something totaly different.
As pastors, you guys are one group who can affect change. I hope this could be priorityThanks