Male survivors of sexual abuse need to understand and be reassured that healing is possible.
"The Long Journey Home provides important and timely information and advocacy for the men and women living with the devastating effects of sexual abuse and rape."
Here is an interesting link for 16 days of activism against Gender Violence Worldwide.
I want to quick introduce myself. I am Alicia Mannes the new part time Safe Church Associate. I will be working with Bonnie on Monday and Tuesday. I look forward to getting to know all of you. More info on me to come soon.
Domestic violence also occurs among families in our churches, and pastors and church leaders need to be prepared to deal with this issue.
“It is our hope and prayer that this handbook will give those who read it a greater understanding of the Advisory Panel Process for responding to church leader misconduct."
I'm a professor of Biblical Studies, a survivor, and I also lead a support group for other male survivors. I would like to hear from people about what is done at their church for male survivors. This concerned me enough to write a book (recently #7 on Amazon's books addressing sexual abuse), ...
"Disclosure may feel like betrayal, and the child experiences ambivalence, particularly if disclosure means the child loses a loved family member. Disclosure is a complex process and does not rest on one factor alone.” - MOSAC
Safety involves each of us, and we can support our children in participating in creating save environments by using the Circle of Grace curriculum. Circle of Grace goes beyond “good touch-bad touch” models by addressing the whole person.
It is important to balance safety and risk with the rights and autonomy of individuals living with disabilities. This can be challenging and confusing, especially for caregivers, but it is important that the right balance be struck.
What do you think churches should do to provide a safer environment for individuals with disabilities?
"85 per cent of the child's core brain structures are developed by the time a child is three years old. This development will lay the foundation for every level of development in a child's life, including the ability to form emotionally healthy relationships."
In a safe church, issues of abuse can be freely discussed. Disclosure of abuse is met with compassion and support for those who have been hurt.
Abuse thrives in silence and secrecy. We must not allow it to thrive in our churches. Instead our challenge is to prevent abuse and to respond effectively when abuse occurs. - From Safe Church Ministry, A Church Leader's Role
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing," wrote eighteenth-century Irish statesmen Edmund Burke.
The start of the new school year is a time when many church programs begin to ramp up again as well, and it’s a good time to remind your congregation of their commitment to safe church.
Check out these helpful websites on the topic of bullying.
"Pornography subtlety undermines male respect for women by detaching a woman's personality from her body, reducing her to a mere sexual commodity ... "
In the pictures, people look happy, hiding the fact that many are forced, manipulated or threatened to produce them. Children are exposed to graphic images as they do their homework. Marriages, relationships, and individuals are harmed by its use. Yet we don’t talk about it. Internet pornography doesn’t belong in Christian community
Internet pornography is huge and growing fast. Its impact on individuals, marriages and families, even in Christian communities, must not be minimized. Our churches can become safe places of hope and healing, but only if we break the silence.
Because no screening can perfectly predict behavior, policies must also be in place and must be followed that limit risks for abuse.
Lifeguards are not just trained and waiting around for something bad to happen. They are vigilant and actively involved in maintaining a safe pool environment. The same should be true of safe church team members
Churches and church leaders should have a well-developed relationship with the local shelter and know what services are available for victims of domestic violence.
“It is important for all organizations to admit that some degree of risk is inevitable in their programs. It is how they handle the risk that is important." - Volunteer Canada
Unfortunately, it is in the context of close interpersonal relationships that persons with intellectual disabilities are often abused. Because of these potential risks, Friendship Ministries has developed model guidelines for churches to follow in preventing abuse.