Our Council recently received a request for baptism from a "long distance" member of our church. This young lady had grown up in our church, been baptized as an infant, professed her faith, and when the time came, married her sweetheart in our church a couple of years ago. Since their marriage, this young couple have settled in a larger community not far from here. They faithfully attend a community church her spouse grew up in in that city, one that believes in infant dedications and adult baptisms. So when they were recently blessed with their first child, they made the decision to have their son baptized. And since her membership is still with our church, they requested the baptism take place in her CRC "home" church.
As Council, we are not sure how to proceed. It would be hard for us as church to "support" the family as the traditional baptismal vows would suggest. We have approved baptisms for member families within our church who we would honestly describe as "inactive", so how do we turn down this request? Are we being too "legalistic"? Our desire is for them to make a commitment to their new home church, but in this instance, are we just frustrating them along their faith journey?
Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated. As a Council, we have deferred our decision until we do some more research.