12 Easy Ideas for Keeping Family Christmas Celebrations Focussed on Jesus


The first year I hung a Jesse Tree Advent calendar on the wall, I envisioned four cherub-faced children and one thoughtful husband carefully listening to me read the devotions each night before reverently hanging an ornament on the tree.

In reality, for twenty-five days four cranky kids and their frustrated dad wiggled and complained as I read, then fought, over whose turn it was to hang the ornament.

In spite of that disastrous first year, the hanging of the Jesse Tree is now a DeBoer family Christmas tradition, thanks to some attention-span adjustments I made to the devotions and the creation of an elaborate turn-taking plan for hanging the ornaments. (In fact, this year I'm so excited about adding to that tradition by using the new Jesse Tree: God's Big Advent Story along with its fabulous, colorful story symbol ornaments.)

More important, I learned that the first way to focus family Christmas celebrations on what matters is to remember that perfection doesn’t exist on earth (hence, Jesus).

The second is to be intentional about finding practices that surround kids with more of the biblical Christmas than the commercial one. Here are some ideas to help you do that:

  • If your child believes in Santa Claus, try celebrating his arrival (or the gift giving) on a different day from your celebration of Jesus’ birth. Once the gift giving and receiving is done, it will be easier to focus your kids’ attention on Jesus’ birthday.  
  • Light an Advent candle each week. I love the ideas for doing so that Faithful Families author Traci Smith includes in this free Advent calendar.  
  • Include ornaments on your tree that symbolize parts of the Christmas story, and talk about them while you decorate: “What do the stars remind you of?” “Which part of the Christmas story do the angels make you think about?”
  • Sing, listen to, and play songs about Jesus’ birth. Find out what Christmas songs your kids are learning at church and add them to your at-home playlist. Something else you might add: the album Waiting Songs by Rain for Roots and this “Hey, Mary!” video.
  • Set up a nativity set that your child can touch and use to act out the Christmas story. Get inspired with these super simple ideas.
  • Visit outdoor nativity scenes in your city.
  • Light candles on a cake and sing “Happy Birthday” to Jesus.
  • Gather picture books about the birth of Jesus. Stand them up on a table as part of your Christmas display.
  • Post this #pictureadvent photo challenge list and invite older kids to take a daily photo of something that captures for them the theme of the day.
  • Keep gifts simple. The best gifts we ever exchanged as a family weren’t the most expensive; they weren’t even on anyone’s list. They were the result of exchanging names with the kids and giving each one $5.00 to spend. The only rule was that the gift had to be purchased at a thrift store that helped others in the community or that supported a worthy cause.
  • Serve together. Tell your kids about a local and/or global charity and plan a way to support their work together.
  • Demonstrate joy. Let your child see the joy that Jesus’ birth brings you, even when circumstances are difficult.

And, dear fellow imperfect parents, when things don’t go as planned, remember these wise words from this blog post by Heather Sleighthold:

"Believe me, your children won’t remember what kind of candles you used, or how fancy the whole setup is. What they will remember most is this time with you—of getting to help and be included. And it will also make an impression on them about what the season of Advent truly means, and the joy that can be found in the waiting.”  

This post includes material adapted from Home Grown Handbook for Christian Parenting (Faith Alive).

Posted in:
Image Credit

The Network hosts user-submitted content.
Posts don't necessarily imply CRCNA endorsement, but must comply with our community guidelines.

Let's Discuss…

We love your comments! Thanks for your help upholding the Community Guidelines to make this an encouraging and respectful community for everyone.