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These two resources offer studies to help young people grow in their journey of faith formation. Both resources provide strong Biblical teaching, in-depth questions, and activities for practical application.

September 8, 2017 0 4 comments
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I am Canadian and last week a new bill was passed in Ontario which adds 'gender identity' and 'gender expression' to what is considered 'in the best interests of the child'.  It also removes the 'religious faith a child is being raised in' as a matter that is to be considered.  It also will...

June 10, 2017 0 1 comments

The Joy Smith Foundation (JSF) is an organization working to end human trafficking. Read about the work JSF is doing and how you can make yourself aware of the danger of human trafficking and keep your loved ones safe.

May 26, 2017 0 0 comments

Here are seven ideas of activities with the potential to form faith that you can do with your kids for little or no dough.

March 30, 2017 0 0 comments

Below you’ll find six tools to help the families in your congregation build faith at home during Easter. 

March 29, 2017 0 0 comments

I’ve heard all of these statements in the past six months. Some might make you cringe, and some you may have said before. The point is not to shame you for things you’ve said in the past, but help you better navigate interacting with a grieving parent in the future.

March 28, 2017 0 18 comments

Children learn through observation, but they learn best through participation! Check out this new tool that offers 10 meaningful ways to involve kids in worship.

February 23, 2017 0 0 comments

One Sunday I noticed something strange. Even though we were usually the first car at church, my dad always chose to park in the worst spot. His explanation has stuck with me to this day. 

December 5, 2016 0 1 comments

As I hear my friends reflect on the election’s outcome, I am hearing a loss for words about how to talk about this with children. It is in response to what I am hearing that I offer this devotion for parents.

November 10, 2016 0 1 comments

The Welcoming Children to the Lord’s Supper toolkit contains excellent resources to support parents/caregivers and children’s leaders as they engage kids in conversations about the Lord’s Supper.

September 7, 2016 0 0 comments

In my Facebook feed, I've seen many mothers express the sadness of having a child start college and leave home. But these transition times remind me of all the people in church who have influenced our kids. 

August 31, 2016 0 0 comments

A single parent has suffered loss—whether through death, desertion, separation or divorce. She/he will exhibit all the stages of grief but also needs to go on with daily life. Here are several ways a church can help. 

August 31, 2016 0 1 comments

Since the release of the God Loves Me storybooks last October, grandparents have been sharing stories about the impact of the books. If you’d like your heart warmed today, read on.

May 31, 2016 0 0 comments

It's one thing to paint a picture or try your hand at the pottery wheel (and if you mess up, so what?); it’s another thing entirely to work with living souls. The stakes feel so much higher.

May 19, 2016 0 1 comments

A couple’s religious beliefs, or one partner’s lack thereof, should be looked at before tying the knot. A plan for dealing with differences should be agreed upon. But, the plan needs to be kept flexible. 

April 20, 2016 0 0 comments
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A recent article in Forbes magazine reported that Americans now spend more money on Easter candy than they do on Halloween candy. Have you noticed an increase in Easter consumerism?

April 5, 2016 0 4 comments

We’ve been through times both of us hope never, ever to experience again. When God doesn’t pick up the phone, believers feel unspeakably alone. Then there are no words, only groaning.

January 13, 2016 0 0 comments
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Before the presents were neatly wrapped in bows, did you and your spouse have a discussion about Christmas? Specifically, did you set a limit on the number of gifts to give each child? 

December 18, 2015 0 0 comments
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Whether you are with new friends or familiar faces this Thanksgiving, we pray these cards will help you and your guests deepen your thankfulness to God and love for one another. 

November 16, 2015 0 0 comments

Check out these two amazing resources for re-aligning you and your family's comings and goings to the rhythms of God's grace this Advent season and beyond. 

November 10, 2015 0 1 comments
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 In recent weeks, Family Fire from ReFrame Media has taken a close look at what it means to follow the Holy Spirit’s guidance in personal relationships.

November 9, 2015 0 0 comments
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Amanda Barton has had a dream of writing a children's book that shows the realities, both good and hard in every adoption story. Her goal is a book that adds grace to both adopted children and their families as they discover the joys of adoption, even through the hard stuff.

That dream ...

October 13, 2015 0 0 comments

My husband and I are expecting our first baby in January [insert panic and excitement]. Preparation is key, or so I've heard. For me, an unexpected Amazon delivery proved to be the best gift.

September 21, 2015 0 4 comments

Rather than feeling guilty about the places where I am failing as a parent, I am resolving to take small steps to pass on my faith to them. I'm starting with "lunch box notes"... 

September 3, 2015 0 0 comments

The school classroom is one setting where the protection of the home is mostly absent. Still, how can parents play a role in helping their children?

August 20, 2015 0 0 comments



I love your closing sentence, Eric. I have felt guilty for being born white at different times in life. One of the worst was when we were in CRC sensitivity training for a certain board a decade or so ago. We were in a circle of a couple of dozen folks and given grotesque, gruesome photos of black people being hung from trees or being brutally beaten and bloodied. I hated that. I don't condone that. I didn't do that. I could not identify with that. And if some of my forfathers were involved in that I would truly be sickened. But owning that as my sin and being made to feel guilty for that as a person who has committed such evils served no good purpose. I did not choose my race. I choose how I love and respond to others. Thanks again for your insightful response.

Hey Paul, I gave that article a read and perused some of the writer’s other articles as well. I can’t say I agree with everything he writes, especially his incredulity about structural racism, but I think I see what you’re getting at. It shouldn’t be too surprising to anyone who knows how idolatry works that idolatry takes a good thing and makes it a thing to be worshipped. So, if I’m understanding you correctly, are you saying that antiracism is a good thing that can be made into a competitor for our highest loyalties? I agree; lots of things can be competitors for our loyalties (technology, work, sex, money, environmentalism, nationalism, etc), and yet the answer isn’t often to throw those things out, but to keep our eyes fixed on Jesus. So, assuming that you believe antiracism is good and is part of the Church’s call, following our Lord who broke down the dividing wall between Jews and Gentiles, do you see a problem with educating kids about antiracism? (By antiracism I mean learning to truly value the inherent worth, dignity, and contributions of all people and to work to undo the ways that God-given worth isn’t valued in people of colour.)

The CRC's approach in this arena is nothing less than simply parroting and following the world's conversation.  It is sad to see the divisiveness promoted by denominational employees in the name of reconciliation.  Coates' writing is filled with thinly veiled hatred.  That the CRC's "race relations" director would affirmatively quote Coates from his latest divisive screed (which he has) is a sad commentary on denominational approach to this conversation.  The notion of "race relations" is an incoherent concept in itself, as races can't have relationships - only people have relationships.  Continuously separating the body of Christ into competing groups with lists of grievances is antithetical to the concept of reconciliation.  Removing a persons individuality and personal culpability (or lack thereof) in favor of identity and group politics is the way of the world, not the way of the unified body of Christ.  Would that we would eschew any and all worldly religions (including the religion of antiracism with all of its corrosive effects) in favor of the simplicity of the gospel.  I refuse to be pitted against people I have never met and told to reconcile with people with whom I am not in a state of enmity. 

The proper response to original sin is to embrace the teachings of Jesus, although one will remain always a sinner nevertheless. The proper response to White Privilege is to embrace the teachings of—well, you can fill in the name or substitute others—with the understanding that you will always harbor the Privilege nevertheless. Note that many embrace the idea of inculcating white kids with their responsibility to acknowledge Privilege from as early an age as possible, in sessions starting as early as elementary school. This, in the Naciremian sense, is Sunday school.

Think of it. A certain class of white person, roughly those who watched 30 Rock and Mad Men, lustily pumps their fists at the writings of a Coates who says that he is surprised that white people—i.e. ones like them—are interested enough in black people and racism to even bother reading his work. Coates is telling these people that they are sinners, in a sense, and they are eagerly drinking in the charge, “revering” him for it. This, ladies and gentlemen, is worship, pure and simple.


I would urge some caution, Michelle, in light of some of the CRC's prior statements which may or may not line up with the links you provided.

To my knowledge, the CRC hasn't developed a 'position statement' on gender identity issues. But it has on the issue of homosexuality and even 45 years ago the 1973 report it approved said:

"It is important to understand that homosexuality is not the result of any conscious choice or decision on the part of the person to be homosexual."

And the CRC position statement goes on to say:

"Persons of same-sex attraction should not be denied community acceptance solely because of their sexual orientation and should be wholeheartedly received by the church and given loving support and encouragement. Christian homosexuals, like all Christians, are called to discipleship, holy obedience, and the use of their gifts in the cause of the kingdom. Opportunities to serve within the offices and the life of the congregation should be afforded to them as to heterosexual Christians."

If synod came to that conclusion about homosexuality 45 years ago, I wouldn't be surprised if it comes to the same conclusion about gender identity when that is studied.

We may soon find out, because Synod 2016 has appointed a study committee to "articulate a foundation-laying biblical theology of human sexuality that pays particular attention to biblical conceptions of gender and sexuality." So we can look forward to further clarity from that report. 

But it's noteable that synod, in the makeup of the study committee, said it wanted the committee to include a gender dysphoric person. And all committee members are to adhere to the CRC's biblical view of marriage. So, even in forming the committee, it seems that synod doesn't view those two things as incompatible. See:

I hope these CRCNA references are helpful.

That's a wonderful way to use the post, Dave. Thanks for sharing!

What a perfect article.  Thank you for it.  I've forwarded it as my own thank-you letter to parents in our church (who, wonderfully, behave just like the parents described).

Thanks again for the grace. Your intentions were certainly received and there are some really good tips. Keep up the good writing! I read a couple of your previous articles... well done.  I'll message you something related to a past article but perhaps in January of next year, just prior to Sanctity of Human Life Sunday, I'll share it through the Network. Thanks for the encouragement.

Thank you, Angie. One other thought that came to mind this morning was when our daughter was dying, I had asked God, "Why? I don't understand." Not out of anger, but simply at a loss, at a place you've been I'm sure. Later that morning, as we waited in the Rochester NY airport for our other dau to fly in, a plaque above where we sat had the words to Ps.139:13-16 written out. I literally felt a wave of peace come over me as I read them and clung to those verses in my own days of grief, tears and turmoil, with an eventual peace I can only say is from our Lord. My heart goes out to you and your family. It's a long journey, and just know that you will be in my prayers. Blessings to you also!

I should also add that I'd be very interested in attending a GriefShare program. My grandma recently went through the program after my grandpa passed away, and she truly appreciated the program and found it very helpful. I'll have to be on the lookout for these types of programs when we're ready for something like that.

Hi Eric, 

Thanks for your comment. I should clarify that my sole intent for this post was to openly share my personal experience with grief so far, and maybe provide some practical suggestions for how to interact with parents who have lost a child--more specifically those who have recently lost a child.  My post was more directed to the average person struggling to know what to say to their friend, neighbor, fellow church-goer that has lost a child. And I think this post does achieve that based on the overwhelming amount of positive feedback it has received so far (and I'm so grateful for that!)

I confess that my writing comes out a dark place, as I'm still very much in the midst of the early stages of grieving. I'm not yet ready to talk with others about the deep theological questions that death brings up (though that's not to say I haven't thought about them...I do). I most definitely believe that God is sovereign--I'd feel pretty hopeless if I didn't wholeheartedly believe this! Perhaps my wording in the post didn't express that, although I hope that many will see that. My intent for my post was most definitely not to make sweeping statements on the nature of God and his relationship to suffering and sin. I wrote my post on a much shallower level, I admit. :)

I think most reading this post are simply looking for a few tips for comforting their grieving brothers and sisters. Personally, it will be many years before I'm ready to explore the big questions about grief that have been debated by people of faith for hundreds and hundreds of years. But I think that's OK.

Thanks, Linda! And thank you for sharing your story, too. You're so right in that grief changes as time goes on. I've noticed that throughout the past six months. The rawness and shock of the first couple months has given way to a different kind of grief. Still overwhelming and crushing, but there certainly has been healing too. Blessings to your family!

BTW, one of the greatest books I've read that helps with some of these big questions is "Trusting God Even When Life Hurts" by the late Jerry Bridges. Soooo good. Blessings in Christ.


Thank you so much for sharing your story and the wisdom you gained from your ongoing experience.  I’m so sorry for your loss.  These are really good thoughts and things to think about for those with good intentions to consider beforehand. It was a gracious reminder of the need for the body of Christ to “weep with those who weep.” Rom 12:15 Because trials will continue until Christ’s return, its helpful to learn how the church can properly come alongside the grieving. Our church recently had a group full of people grieving for a variety of different reasons who went through a study called “GriefShare” (I think its called). While it was primarily geared for people who were currently in the midst of grieving, it would be awesome for everyone to learn how to better provide comfort for the afflicted… to point toward the gospel.  

I can certainly identify with many of the comments you mentioned, but I fall in the category of NOT “knowing how you feel” exactly. Not that it is required in order to come alongside of someone, but I think those in my situation of not having gone through difficult loss are more in need of good advice to help those who grieve. So thank you for providing some good insight.

While I greatly appreciate the majority of what you said, I wonder if you’ll allow the freedom to question a couple of things. I almost feel that this is inappropriate… and if you find it to be so, then please feel free to delete my comments. I mean everything I’m about to say with “gentleness and respect.”  What I would want to challenge is not so much what should or should not be said to someone, but rather what should or should not be believed about God and his sovereignty.

These may not be things that are initially discussed immediately following a tragedy like the one you experienced, (for that is the time to care for, provide comfort, come alongside and weep with, etc.) but these should be things that will provide long-term comfort, hope and confidence in God’s goodness. So while initially comfort it needed, after some time, for some, there may be need for godly confrontation and challenge concerning the false beliefs some have. You see, big questions arise concerning God’s nature and character whenever people experience tragedy. The problem of evil (whether natural in the case of disaster or disease, or in moral evil) raises questions about God’s love, justice, omniscience, omnipotence and so forth. The big “why did this happen” questions come. And as far as the specifics go, we have no definite answer for specifically why. But that does not necessarily mean there is no reason or that our pain is arbitrary and insignificant to God.

To this point, there may be a chance that you have some inaccurate or unbiblical assumptions about God that many do. (If this is not the case, and I am misunderstanding you and I’ve gone on and on needlessly, then I’m truly sorry and this can be deleted) 

Specifically under statement #3 you said  “I know that God did not cause this evil to happen, and I know God can make good come out of tragic experiences.”… and also in a similar way under #5 “…but I know God didn’t cause her death. He didn’t give us this tragedy.” I guess I just wanted to ask, if I may, how do you know this for sure about God?  I totally understand the feeling of not wanting to think that God could be in control of these things, because “why?”  Does he not love?  However, our feelings in submission for the moment, based on God’s Word and how He describes himself, he has revealed the contrary. The two greatest examples we have are in the lives of Joseph and Jesus. (One could also argue for Job as being the greatest example) At the end of Genesis we read of a beautiful testimony of confidence in the sovereignty and providence of God, when Joseph declares “as for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good.” Gen 50:20  That is, God did not merely react and turn a bad situation into a good result, but rather, God intentionally had a purpose to ordain that evil would be done to Joseph that would ultimately serve a greater purpose. All the while we would also affirm the biblical truth that God does not sin nor does he tempt anyone to sin. However, we have to affirm the biblical truth that God ordains that sin be, and for a purpose that serves his greater glory. These are really big things that people have wrestled with for centuries and I in no way am trying to explain them away in a quick post. I do however want to show how the truth of God’s sovereignty (as affirmed by our Reformed confessions) is a beautiful comfort for the afflicted. So often we think that our pain is arbitrary and serves no purpose, its hard to find any hope.

The other example and the greater of the two would be Jesus. In the book of Acts, the disciples pray a beautiful prayer that praises God for his sovereignty. Acts 4:24-30 (beautiful prayer) Within that prayer they also pray these words “for truly in this city there were gathered together against your holy servant Jesus, whom you anointed, both Herod and Pontius Pilate, along with the Gentiles and the peoples of Israel, to do whatever your hand and your plan had predestined to take place.” This is huge! All the evil that was done to Christ was part of God’s plan and that he “predestined to take place.”  Now, we shouldn’t assume that this was just one of a few things that God ordained, but that he works “all things for good.” We move from the greater to the lesser in that if God did not spare his OWN son, and it was for our good, how much more can we trust him as a good father who provides for his children! He has already given us his very best in Jesus! And at great cost to himself, and by the means of evil men, carrying out their evil desires and yet not knowing it was all part of God’s plan.

Now this does not answer the specific “why” to the tragedies we experience, but we can be confident in God’s love. While I don’t know why a tragedy happened, I DO know that its NOT because God doesn’t love me, because he came and entered our human pain in the person of Jesus and died to demonstrate that love. So while God does not commit any evil, he does have a purpose for it and we have to affirm, based on what we know of him in Scripture, that he does “give us this tragedy” and that he does not merely turn something into good (as if he is responding or adjusting to new knowledge) but that he has reasons (ones we may never know of – we aren’t promised an answer) for ordaining that trials occur to us.

That is why, while I love and agree with most of your suggested list of things we could say, I don’t think we can rightfully say “this shouldn’t have happened.” We can’t put ourselves in God’s place or have him answer to us. He could rightfully say to me so often what he said to Job, “who are you oh man?”  When we say this or that shouldn’t have happened, whether we mean it or not, we are really saying God has no right… or, he did something wrong in allowing or ordaining this event.  

I pray my words are read with as much grace as you gave when you wrote this article! You were incredibly patient with those who said some of those hurtful things. Again, I don’t mean by all of this that one should casually say “just trust God, he has a plan.” Sometimes truth can be said at wrong times and in the wrong way. But over time, as some of those big questions start to surface, we should both allow others to speak truth to us with gentleness and respect and also seek ways that we can comfort others with such truths from God’s Word.

I trust I did not offend in any way. Sorry for the book… and most likely, poor grammar.
Grace and peace to you!

You said this so well, Angie! I am so sorry about the loss of your precious baby. No, nothing can ever replace any child you lose. We understand from our own losses - losing a 6-month pregnancy of twins who didn't separate, almost losing a 16-y.o. son, and then losing a 25-y.o. daughter. Your words speak eloquently to each of us. We, too, continue to grieve after all these yrs, but in a different way now than the immediate pain of loss. God bless you and your family as you travel this journey forward together on a path you never expected. With much love and hugs...

Thank you for sharing your experience in this way, Angie.

 In French, we have this proverb or saying that goes,"L'enfer est pavé de bonnes intentions," that could probably be translated as, "Hell is paved [over] with good intentions."  People may mean well, but some comments still hurt when you're on the receiving end.

Thank you for sharing.  I am so sorry for your loss.  I see that you miss your daughter very much, and I pray God will comfort you and guard your heart in Christ Jesus with His daily, hourly, moment by moment peace.

So true! Grief is a lifelong journey, but I'm so thankful for the hope we have in Jesus...wouldn't be able to get through the day without it, that's for sure!

Angie...........just some words from a friend in Illinois. I was ony 1 year old when my 10 year old brother fell from a tree and died a week later. I was only 2, when my 4 day-old brother died because of a mistake that a visiting-nurse made on him. We lost a son who died from esophageal cancer at the age of 35. My daughter-in-law, wrote a very similar article that you just wrote. You are so on the same page ! Because of my young age at the time of my 2 brothers death, I did not realize the impact my parents  had going though this experience of losing 2 sons at an early age, and one son at the age of 40. My mother told me that they were blessed with a very good pastor at the time who knew how to associate sorrow at the time these events happened. He turned out to be my parents best friend ! May God give you His PEACE !             Dean Koldenhoven

Thanks for sharing this, Angie. Such wise and practical advice.

Thank you for sharing a deeply felt issue.  May God continue to give you help in your sorrow.  Even though it diminishes over the years, it will never go away!  My wife and I lost our son 40 years ago and I still weep when I read articles and stories dealing with the loss of a son or daughter.  I weep for you but I glory in the hope that Jesus has made it possible for all of us and our children to be together for all eternity!  What a Savior!


Powerful, helpful and honest. Thank you for sharing! 

What a helpful and thoughtful article, Angie.  I hope this helps everyone who is experiencing heartache and who wonders how best to minister meaningfully to those experiencing heartache.  

Thank you for writing this, Angie. 

What a great story. Thanks, Staci. I'm reminded of how, more Sundays than not, my parents would invite someone over for coffee/lunch after church (especially new visitors). We met a lot of interesting people and, to us kids, it certainly modeled the value of hospitality. Plus I can't tell you how many times I've crossed paths with someone who made the connection and said 'hey, I was at your house once!'

Let's keep this thread going....who's next with an 'act of kindness' memory that left an impression?

I have no words to express my sorrow.  

I know God is sovereign.

i know God calls us to live in unity.

I know God calls us to both speak the truth and speak it in love. 


But on Sunday I will sit with people whose decisions will intensely impact the marginalized in society in extremely negative ways. Many do so in utter ignorance of the pain this decision has on people who don't look like them.  It is mystifying to them. 

And I know that the church has been called to reconcile around the table since its inception... but I would be lying if I didn't say that I think we have lost our way as a church... and I weep.  Not metaphorically. I've been crying a lot these past few days, and not just weeping with those who weep.  Weeping when I'm alone too.  

I fear it will get much worse before it gets better.  

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Excellent article David.  Indeed, divorce is usually more destructive than the death of a spouse/parent.  Having a good "church family" can make a huge difference in the lives of these families.

Thank you for this...

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Thanks, Roger! Completely agree that we shouldn't be offended by the way others celebrate these holidays (I LOVED a good Easter Egg hunt growing up). But I also hope to be on the lookout for ways I can share what Christmas and Easter mean for me as a Jesus follower. 

It’s interesting to observe how people celebrate Easter, as well as Christmas.  I don’t think it is necessary to be offended by people who make Easter into a holiday of their own making.  For many, Easter is no more than a nice opportunity for family get-togethers and an opportunity to do something special for the children and grandchildren. Chocolate Easter bunnies are still standard Easter fare for many Americans and Canadians.  Even the U.S. president has a wonderful Easter egg hunt on the White House lawn.

For many North Americans, Easter is not a religious day of remembrance. The Christian message carries no meaning for them.  So why would they be inclined to celebrate it as such, any more than we would be inclined to celebrate Muslim or Jewish holidays according to their tradition.  North American culture is increasingly becoming multi cultural and multi religious.  The fact that North American businesses and work places give their employees off on these dates does not necessitate how these holidays should be spent.  So for increasing numbers of people, these holy days are becoming holidays, a time to enjoy family and friends.

I’ve heard it said that the date for Christmas was originally a pagan holiday that Christians chose to celebrate the birth of Jesus on.  So today we see, increasingly, our culture celebrating their own celebration on the date we celebrate the birth of Jesus on.  Perhaps it’s best if we just all get along together without taking offense. 

Thanks for the thoughtful comment and call to be bold, Esther. 

  Is it possible that we as Christians are too passive about letting our religious holiday be "perverted" into something it's not? We look the other way as Christmas becomes about Santa Claus and we shrug when the Easter Bunny gets all the attention. We join in with the commercialism. I have asked a  non Christian friend "Why are you celebrating a Christian holiday? Would you celebrate a  Islamic holiday?  If you did, do you think a Muslim would be OK with that, especially if you weren't on board with the meaning of it?"  I then went on to explain why I celebrate the holiday and its importance to me. It's a conversation we should have more often, maybe even in line as we buy the Easter candy. 

My calendar is also full of my own tasks and events that make time fly by! I like the idea of using this seasons calendar to re-align my time & priorities to focus on God's handiwork in everything. 

Thanks so much for sharing, Lauren! I really appreciate your honesty. There are so many different routes to becoming parents and it's a miracle no matter what route you take. I will have to check out the podcast! Thanks again. 

Thanks for sharing this book! 

Thank you for including the adoption-specific devotionals as well. As a prospective adoptive parent, I hesitated to read this article wondering if it would be relevant, but I'm glad I did! I actually listened to a podcast interview with the authors of Encouragement... last week, and I am definitely going to check that one out.

Just finished reading The Land Between by Jeff Manion which is a great book that gives biblical insights to times of transitions, waiting and anxiety.

I love this post and totally believe it! Thank you for sharing. I pray I will do a good job of these things with my own daughter.

Thanks, Robin. Good suggestion! 

Thanks for sharing this blog and this resource, Staci!  I also find helpful, too, under their View Content Advisory link.



Anita, it may be logical to say that after looking at the diversity and balance of creation one must acknowledge a creator.  But it's not logical to say that he created it in seven consecutive days only some 8,000 years ago when science argues for a much longer process.

When one looks at an intricately crafted piece of jewelry, one knows there is a jeweler who crafted it. When one looks at the world in all its diversity and balance, one knows there must be a Creator. That's not primitive; that's logical.

Thanks Ron for your article questioning the loss of interest in the abortion debate.  Although some of your concern is justified, I’m not sure if your (or John Zylstra’s) target of blame is altogether justified.  I find that in many arguments a person who wants to justify their own position, does so by painting the other side at such an extreme that even the other side wouldn’t agree with the position painted.  To think that if discovering evolution was a fraud would  somehow remove the doubts in regard to committing abortions, that is going to such an extreme.  I don’t think, for the most part, that committing abortions and belief in evolution are related.  I can see how you might make such an argument, but I doubt that those who believe in evolution, Christian or otherwise, would agree with you. What discredits the Biblical creation account, is that it is tied so tightly to a very primitive perspective of reality that does not correlate to reality or reason as we experience reality today.  Perhaps the creation account makes sense to someone explaining the sound of thunder as God bowling in heaven.  But that doesn’t sit well with very many people today.  So if evolution was completely disproved, that wouldn’t mean that people would return to a Biblical view of the origins of earth and life.  People would still look for an explanation that correlates to reality as we know it today, and not some primitive explanation of reality.  So, I doubt that abortion and doubts about Biblical creation really relate to each other, as you suggest John.  I know that the issue of the image of God and the sanctity of life are embedded in the creation account, but I doubt that these issues will change the thinking in regard to the right to life debate.  And I doubt, Ron, that questioning these issues will lead to the devaluation of human life or the unabated moral decay of humanity, as you suggest.  Just a casual reading of history will call into question such a perspective. Perhaps, such straw men that you have presented will convince a narrow segment of Christianity, but not most people.

Well said.  It would be ironic if discovering that evolution is a fraud, would save more lives than an actual pro-life campaign.  As I am reading Exodus 21 and 22 right now, and re-discovering all the laws and rules and guidelines for living, it is clear that being fair and considering the welfare of others is fundamental to those laws.  Those laws were the foundation of most of our western civilization laws, and even find parallels in other eastern societies as well. Those rules included a need to care for the widow and orphan.   Imbedded in those rules was this one:  If two men are fighting, and accidentally injure a pregnant woman, and she gives birth prematurely, then if the child is healthy, only a payment of damages to the family (husband) will be required as he stipulates.  But if injury results, then eye for eye, foot for foot, etc.  The unborn child was treated with respect and consideration.  

Under an evolutionary system, the weak and helpless are worth less than others, because the fit survive.  Dramatically different ethics.  This difference is well masked by rhetoric and fine sounding words, but it impacts how laws are made and enforced.  

The thing I remember about the Spartan civilization of ancient Greece, was the common practicide of infanticide through deliberate neglect.  If this world survives another thousand years, what will be remembered about our civilization is abortion of millions of children.  

Great idea, Karen.  In our church a verse is written in each Bible that is given to 2nd graders.  The verse is chosen by the pastor for that child.  In worship during the presentation the pastor reads the verse to the child before the Bible is given to the child.  Often that verse is one that the kids recall when they profess their faith.

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Thank you for sharing this, Laura! I like the idea of honoring the small occasions in our family's life. Our oldest child recently graduated the eight grade, and her school doesn't have a ceremony or anything to mark it, but I have been wondering how our family might mark, even in a small way, this milestone in her life as she sets of for high school. I am eager to check this book out.

This book inspired me to start a new family tradition for Pentecost! I like the ideas involving kites and wind that the author suggested for Pentecost, but I've always noticed a certain flower that blooms in the spring that reminds me of a flame. So my family (which includes my husband and two-year-old daughter) planted an orange celosia plumosa flower as we talked about the Pentecost story. Then we sang a simple song that I learned through the Little Lamb's curriculum which is set to the tune of the Farmer in the Dell: 

The birthday of the church! 

The birthday of the church! 

We celebrate Pentecost, the birthday of the church!

The wind was very strong

The Holy Spirit came,

Disciples told of Jesus love and praised his holy name! 

We will probably outgrow that song as my kids grow up, but I hope to continue planting the flower each year! Now it sits in a pot near our deck reminding us of the important day when the Holy Spirit came in a new way. My daughter waters it while she plays with her water table and sings the Pentecost song! 


Thank you, Laura, for this lovely post on my book! If people are interested in checking it out, they can find it at Chalice Press or Amazon

Congratulations to you on your son's wedding; what a joyous occasion! 



Hi Albert, Gald you contacted mickie.  Hope she writes you back soon.  She's a terrific resource!