I will state it directly: We do not have enough emotional or relational maturity in our congregations and in our leadership. Irritations rub and rub until there is smoke and eventually full heated conflict.
Attitudes need monitoring, as does atmosphere. A detector for real smoke checks the atmosphere for clarity at regular intervals and if needed, sounds an alert. How is this done in churches?
I realized this was a challenge for churches when I saw the large role expectations played in the relationship between pastors and churches, particularly when stated expectations were not met, but even more so when unstated expectations were not.
I'm a Canadian CRC pastor who has accepted an invitation to serve a church in Iowa. I was refused entry to the US because my R-1 Visa was not complete at the time I tried to cross. Sharing the story here, it is my hope to prevent others from experiencing the same disappointing delays.