And Then He Said, 'When Will You See a Spiritual Director?'
June 14, 2018
Updated June 20, 2018
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An older ministry friend and I meet monthly for personal updates and prayer. This special companion is gentle, soft-spoken, insightful, encouraging. Time with him is a rich gift of grace.
About a year ago, a pattern developed during our check-ins that I was slow to pick up on. It went something like this:
After hearing this question for the third consecutive month, I finally took it seriously, and made arrangements to meet with a retired CRC pastor who had been trained to provide spiritual direction.
And now I understand why my friend was so insistent.
I have come to see my spiritual director as a “Psalm 139 companion.” There is so much in this psalm that I love:
You have searched me, Lord, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely. You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain. . . .
Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. (vvs. 1-6, 23, 24)
My vision is filled with blind spots. I find it easy to see challenges, confusions, uncooperative people, interminable meetings, unreasonable expectations, slow-moving processes. For some strange reason, negative things are much easier to see and focus on than those things that point to the gracious presence of God through the gentle winds of the Holy Spirit.
The spiritual director I meet with has a gift for asking me questions that challenge me to wonder about the manifold ways God is present with me in all that I am and do. And as I try to respond to his prodding questions, the Holy Spirit helps me to remember that:
My monthly check-ins cleanse my eyes every time, renewing me again to “fix my eyes upon Jesus to run with perseverance the race marked out before me” (Heb. 12:1-2). I’ve learned that I can’t overcome my blind spots alone. I’m grateful for my Psalm 139 companion.
What about you? You may want to check out the Pastor’s Spiritual Vitality Toolkit for more ideas and suggestions for finding such a companion.
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I have found spiritual direction invaluable in my life. Not sure I would have survived without it at certain points, or at least would not be in the same place I am now. A spiritual director will help you see God's presence in places where you haven't seen it before, and can help frame or form your own questions and conversations with God. So thankful for good spiritual directors, and would encourage anyone who is serious about going deeper in their relationship with God, and with yourself to try it. I think you'll like it.
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