I am a victim of pastoral abuse for the past three years. I went to my pastor for counseling and ended up in this situation. I just reported him to the superintendent of this district of churches in central Indiana. Fortunately I found help from Tamar's Voice and Hope for Survivors, but it's still not easy. The superintendent believed me and immediatey went to that pastor and his wife and took away his credentials and license. The congregation sides with him and those who know who I am have turned their backs on me afflicting more pain. The congregation wants him back even in light that he lied to them and told them he was on sabbactical leave and they are paying him until the end of the year his full salary in hopes he will be back. The superintendent advised me he won't be if he can help it, but he can be reinstated. What he done to me was very evil and destructive and I am sure he has more victims. He also has a past of infidelity. It's hard to believe they would want him back and turn me away. I have found a new church and new denomination where I feel safe and am receiving counseling. I want so much for the word to get out about what is going on with these pastors who are predators and perpetrators and someday hope to make my voice known. In the meantime I have a lot of healing to go through. I have not thought of litigation, but am asking my counceling bills be paid for. If the reinsate him, I may seek legal council.
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I am a victim of pastoral abuse for the past three years. I went to my pastor for counseling and ended up in this situation. I just reported him to the superintendent of this district of churches in central Indiana. Fortunately I found help from Tamar's Voice and Hope for Survivors, but it's still not easy. The superintendent believed me and immediatey went to that pastor and his wife and took away his credentials and license. The congregation sides with him and those who know who I am have turned their backs on me afflicting more pain. The congregation wants him back even in light that he lied to them and told them he was on sabbactical leave and they are paying him until the end of the year his full salary in hopes he will be back. The superintendent advised me he won't be if he can help it, but he can be reinstated. What he done to me was very evil and destructive and I am sure he has more victims. He also has a past of infidelity. It's hard to believe they would want him back and turn me away. I have found a new church and new denomination where I feel safe and am receiving counseling. I want so much for the word to get out about what is going on with these pastors who are predators and perpetrators and someday hope to make my voice known. In the meantime I have a lot of healing to go through. I have not thought of litigation, but am asking my counceling bills be paid for. If the reinsate him, I may seek legal council.