Douglas Vrieland

Right on!  Lately I've seen this term used re. the CRC, "irreconcilable differences."  We have irreconcilable differences, and so we need to split.  This is the language of the divorce court, used to justify a split.  It is not Biblical.  According to the Bible, the church is like a body-- "the body is not made up of one part but of many."  No part can say to another,  "I have no need of you."  The Dutch Americans in the CRC need the Koreans.  The US needs Canada-- and the other way around.  Those who are "affirming" need those who "abide," and the other way around.  "But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body"  (see I Corinthians 12:12-20).   I get it-- the Episcopalians, Presbyterians, and the RCA split over issues we are facing today.  How has that worked out for them?  We say the Bible is our guide-- why don't we put our egos aside, listen to what it says, and follow its teaching, as challenging as that may be?

As a retired CRC military chaplain, I want to thank Thrive for this excellent article.  One item that's missing is retired ministers.  We retain the privilages of ministry, including teaching, preaching, and presiding over the sacraments.  But we also are held accountable, and a CRC church holds our credentials.  Holland Heights CRC in Holland, MI holds my credentials as well as an active (hospice) chaplain and two other retired ministers.  They have been very supportive of my ministry, and I believe of the other ministers in the congregation.  The pastor of the church (an RCA pastor) has taken the lead on this.  He is not threatened by the other ministers in the congregation, but appreciates our unique gifts, training, and experience.  When I was in the military, my calling church was Creston CRC in Grand Rapids, which was also very supportive.  In my experience the support of pastors in non-traditional ministries or retired pastors begins with the pastor(s) of the congregation, and his or her respect for their colleague's work.

“I’m not as certain as the people making the decision seem to be. Is it okay for me to stick around even if I’m not as sure about this issue? Can I stay if I have questions or misgivings?”  Maybe most Councils would say, "Yes," but my impression if that Synod is getting ready to say "no."  Fortunately the gravamen question was postponed until Synod, 2024, but I have no assurance that things will be any different.  I feel like I'm being pushed out of the denomination I've been a part of my whole life and have served faithfully as a pastor for 40 years.  Is the denomination going to sponsor "listening circles"?

We seem to be caught in a binary, either/or world.  Either we support the traditional view of Synod, 1973, or we are "affirming."  The author speaks against "changing or position," yet in fact Synod 2022 DID change our position.  Our position had the force of a Synodical Decision, which allowed for disagreement.  Now it is Confessional, meaning there is no room for disagreement.  The author seems to be saying that the change had to be made because allowing the Neland Avenue congregation to disagree was unacceptable.  My answer to the issue is,  "I don't know."  What I do know is that members of the LBGTQ community are image bearers of God, that they need the gospel as much as anyone else does, and that there are many LBGTQ Christians.  So why did Synod 2022 have to make the change from a Synodical statement to Confessional status?  I believe it was to relieve the anxiety within the church, largely because acting on the report was delayed because of COVID.  I believe Synod was more concerned with the anxiety within the church than it was with reaching out effectively to members of the LBGTQ community.  We need, as a church, to step back, take a breath, and humbly admit that we don't have all the answers.  Then we need to fall on our knees and beg God to help us to follow his will, which includes not only teaching on sexual ethics but also church unity.   

Thank you for this article.  I was stationed in Charleston, S.C. when I was assigned as a Chaplain at the Coast Guard base there.  I drove past that church every day.  My heart still goes out to the dear people whose sacred space was defiled on that tragic day.  You are right-- forgiveness is the only answer.