Thanks for doing this, Chuck. A term I am running into, which I find accurate, is "narcissistic abuse". When working with women who have narcissistic husbands, I review the 16 ways that their husbands mistreat and abuse them. Although some fit the typical controlling traits of abusive husbands, some of them uniquely fit narcissism, such as gaslighting (distorting reality). Gaslighting is also becoming, I think, a stronger "go to" when talking about narcissism. Husbands who tell their wives, "I didn't say that", "you didn't see that right", "You're not thinking right" and so on, are creating self-doubt which is exactly what husbands want.
I wonder what the pastoral narcissistic abuse traits would be. Judy De Wit
I am a Christian Education Director for a Presbyterian church, taught in Christian Schools for 14 years, hold a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, wrote four books, soon to be 5 books about abuse and abuse in the church, and have several other degrees.
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Thanks for doing this, Chuck. A term I am running into, which I find accurate, is "narcissistic abuse". When working with women who have narcissistic husbands, I review the 16 ways that their husbands mistreat and abuse them. Although some fit the typical controlling traits of abusive husbands, some of them uniquely fit narcissism, such as gaslighting (distorting reality). Gaslighting is also becoming, I think, a stronger "go to" when talking about narcissism. Husbands who tell their wives, "I didn't say that", "you didn't see that right", "You're not thinking right" and so on, are creating self-doubt which is exactly what husbands want.
I wonder what the pastoral narcissistic abuse traits would be. Judy De Wit
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I am a Christian Education Director for a Presbyterian church, taught in Christian Schools for 14 years, hold a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, wrote four books, soon to be 5 books about abuse and abuse in the church, and have several other degrees.
Judy DeWit
Sioux Falls, South Dakota