Hi Diane. Thanks for offering your thoughts. I always appreciate the opportunity for conversation, and I appreciate the willingness that you demonstrate here to seek conversation.
If I may begin with words of appreciation. I love your reference to I Cor. 12 – such a special and meaningful verse, and so appropriate for our ongoing reflection. The ramifications of such a view of our life in the church are such that their depth will not be plumbed in our lifetimes. Thank you for this reference and reminder.
I affirm your instinct and assertion that lament is deeper and bigger than saying “I’m sorry”. Certainly Scripture models something much deeper, more personal, more heart-wrenching in its laments. Triteness will not serve us well in lament.
I further appreciate your challenge to grow and learn from others – this is an evergreen challenge in the church and in our personal lives. There never is a bad time to strive for growth and to learn from others, and if we ever cease in these endeavors we will stagnate.
Pivoting a bit, I hope you might consider a few thoughts from a different (to use a popular phrase) “lived experience”.
I am unfamiliar with the dearth of lament that you begin your reflection with. I wonder a bit if you are well-positioned to conclude broadly that “expression of deep pain and hurt and the ability to put words to that suffering and lay it at the feet of Jesus is something most of us do not understand” or that “we do not do it well” (emphases added). My observations along these lines are different, though I will not posit that they are universally applicable. If I may offer a few areas in which I have observed things in contrast to your conclusions.
My first observation relates to my 52 years of church and personal life, which have been rife with the practice of lament. One of the first and most obvious ways that I have seen this in practice has been through the reading, praying, singing, and preaching of the Psalms, many of which are or contain laments. Beyond this we find that the prophets also modeled lament. One of the things I think laments in Scripture include that I see missing from some modern lament is lamenting how we have offended God. Modern laments seem to have plenty of focus on the horizontal (how we have offended each other), but I see less of the vertical (how we have offended God). I think that can be an area of growth for us in the church and certainly in our moment in the CRC. In short, I have observed lament to be much more present and rich than you describe.
My second observation relates to synod, in particular the last three years of synod and your question “Where is the lament?” I was a bit surprised to read your description of the last three years of synod being (somewhat) devoid of lament. I was a delegate to Synod 2022 and observed an abundance of lament, be it corporate and public or personal and intimate. Some of us left that synod dubbing it unofficially the Synod of Lament. Prayers and expressions of lament peppered the proceedings, including a prayer of lament from the members of Committee 8 (HSR committee). I attended portions of Synod 2023 and watched other portions online, and I would describe that synod in similar terms. Synod 2024 similarly to my eyes contained significant lament. I did a quick word search of the Acts of Synod 2022 and 2023 and the Agenda for Synod 2024 (the Acts being as of yet unavailable). By way of comparison, the word “praise” appears 55 times in these documents and the word “lament” appears 57 times. This is somewhat anecdotal, but does serve to be illustrative of my observations, even as it (likely) under-reports what actually occurred (as to frequency). Again, lack of lament is not what I observed.
My third observation relates again to the synods of 2022-2024, but not to the proceedings thereof specifically. Rather, I speak here of the “cloud of witnesses” that prayed over these synods. I have rarely observed such petitioned proceedings, as churches and individuals throughout my sphere of observation poured out their hearts before God in repentance, lament, praise, and intercession. In particular I think of a group that I joined regularly (sometimes in person, sometimes in theme/topic while absent) for prayer on a weekly basis over the last three years. I can testify that lament was regular during these times.
I can believe that you long for greater lament, but I would offer that perhaps the lack of lament is not as prevalent as you believe. I will certainly join you in encouraging godly lament and can absolutely agree that the Biblical call to pray without ceasing always convicts us that we have never “arrived” at any perfect or complete pattern of prayer.
I will offer a last challenge in conclusion. You offer a list of laments near the end of your article. I wonder if you would be willing to reflect on other laments that you have excluded. It seems to me that it is entirely appropriate not just to lament our current malaise and pain, but also what led to these conditions. Can we say we lament…
broken vows and covenants
false teaching
calling evil good and good evil
those led astray
slanders of character
lack of submission where submission was promised
failure to heed correction
our corporate rebellion against God and tolerance of sin
I cannot envision a lament that is pleasing to God that begins and ends on the horizontal, with broken human relationships. It seems to me that we must acknowledge and lament our sins before God that have led to a position where we need to lament broken human relationships. Ultimately all of our lament and brokenness finds its root in the brokenness of our relationship with God, and that deserves our greatest lament.
I am again thankful that you have opened up this topic and thank you in advance for any longsuffering you may have in engaging or considering my responsive thoughts.
I appreciate you thinking out loud and sharing your thoughts with others. I think there are some valuable principles in what you are saying and wisdom to heed.
You did lose me a bit with the red blood cell/white blood cell distinction and your assertion that the purpose of Synod is being missed. I'm not sure I concur on that, at least as broadly as you assert it.
With Lloyd above, I'm also of the mind that you overstate when you say "Each delegate takes the stand to plead their just cause on behalf of their constituents back home." I think you are exercising a bit of unhealthy psychologizing, just plain unflattering guessing, or perhaps unhelpful projection. It seems likely that some people may be tempted to "play to the camera" to a degree and perhaps consider who back home is listening. But I think you state things in much more (derogatively) absolute terms and dismiss the wisdom and maturity of many seasoned church members who do come in good conscience and rise to speak in deliberative fashion out of that conscience. That was my experience in 2022 as a delegate and my observation in the gallery in 2023. I think you are wrong to conclude that "Frankly, the last two years of Synod (in particular) have had a lot more in common with congress than the Acts 15 model of church leadership." I think this is an unhelpfully totalizing and dismissive assessment that does not seem to follow your later godly advice to "assume the best of one another".
My purpose here is not to dismiss your valid points but to work together to sharpen our collective thinking, as also seems to be your goal.
Thanks for continuing the conversation. For some reason I see no reply from you to Lloyd, so I don't have the benefit of reading and understanding that reply. I think you are making a bit of leap in your comparisons. Synod is not akin to a basketball team or a private family matter. All private confidential matters handled at Synod are in fact done in strict executive session. Everything else concerns our common life together. I disagree that our deliberations at Synod are akin to my serious concern about my spouse or a close personal friend. Those are apples and oranges. So I disagree with you that I should feel bad for speaking openly at Synod on matters that concern the corporate body. You seem to be implying that at Synod we mainly speak about persons. But we don't - in fact it is dissuaded and in some cases we are instructed to approach the President of Synod before ever mentioning a name.
I will stand behind my critique of your quotes, including how you characterized the business or atmosphere of Synod. I think it was wrong and unhelpful of you to accuse the Synod delegates of universally ("each") pleading the cause to their constituents back home instead of being deliberative. I think it was wrong and unhelpful for you to say that the last two years of Synod have borne more similarity to congress than to biblical leadership. I disagree with those assessments and find them unhelpful and distracting to your points where I do find common cause.
As to your concluding questions:
1) I'll assume by "goal" you mean the goal of synodical deliberations. But here I reject your framing. Nothing has to do with who I do or do not "disagree with". That makes things personal to me, and my opinions are not the point. The doctrine of the Word as agreed upon by the church is the point. Also, you present a false choice. Discipline (which unfortunately we are having to speak of regularly at Synod these days) is about both correcting and (when necessary) pruning (C.O. Article 78). The pruning depends on whether or not the correction is heeded. Currently we are seeing a significant lack of heeding correction, which is not encouraging.
2) Leading up to Synod 2022 many churches and classes pleaded passionately with GRE and Neland Ave to turn from their error. I would want this personal and heartfelt pleading. Synod 2022 formed a committee to walk alongside Neland and GRE and guide them. I would want this personal and wise counsel. Synod 2023 took up (but failed to pass) a recommendation for further guidance for Neland and GRE. I would want this further guidance. In fact, when I testified about the HSR on the floor of synod in 2022 my approach and appeal was that the HSR was written for me, that it first speaks to my sin and my temptations, and that I need a church that is willing to hold me to account, to correct me when I am straying. This was my plea and it was an honest plea. I can't imagine feeling loved by a church that would withhold correction from me.
3) We have applied some of the above in (and outside of) Synod, but as noted Synod 2023 failed to faithfully continue in the oversight and correction started in 2022. I think that was not to Synod 2023's credit, and that needs to be remedied. When I was at Synod as a delegate and observer in 2022 and 2023 what I saw was a body agonizing over hard decisions. I saw no callousness, no cruelty, not harshness. I saw gentleness and continued expressions of love. Perfect love? No, that we have yet to exhibit or observe on this side of eternity.
Thanks again for the conversation. These are matters that are worth discussing.
Once again, I don't accept the framing of your question. First, I note that you again pose a false choice. Second, the phraseology of "be right" is unhelpful. I would offer that what I am much of the church are striving for is faithfulness, not a sense or idea of being right. And faithfulness need not be pitted against success as you do in your question. If we are faithful we will achieve exactly as much success as God desires for us, and that "success" may not look like what we desire or envision.
Certainly all of our decisions impact people, that is unavoidable. But that does not mean that in our deliberations we are talking about (specific, individual) people, except on very rare occasions. I think perhaps you overvalue the "step up" from a body of nearly 200 people to that same body with a gallery and cameras. For most elders and deacons, unpracticed as many of us are at public speaking, 200 people could just as well be 2000 people. The gallery and cameras don't up the ante that much. It's not as if 200 people is an intimate group where one feels the safety of privacy. To that degree I don't think privatizing Synod would have much of an effect.
As for further communication, I would counter-propose a both/and. I think a purpose of the Network is to hear each other and discuss publicly for the benefit of the broader group. I am perhaps more reluctant to pull back from public conversation. Having said that I would be only too glad to make your acquaintance more personally if you would find that helpful. I can be reached at [email protected]. Thanks for the conversation thus far.
You can count me as one who is glad that you offered your thoughts despite hesitation. I certainly don’t have all the answers, but I think that the church we are a part of does have answers to a lot of your questions below. I would challenge your framing assertion that the decision of Synod 2022 “was motivated more by a desire to reduce the anxiety in the church than to more effectively minister to members of the LBGTQ community.” As a delegate to Synod 2022 I can confirm that there was a level of anxiety involved in the decision making, but the anxiety was precisely because of the significant ramifications for effective ministry. It was a decision bathed in prayer and motivated by love for God and neighbor.
As to your 3 main points, I would offer a few thoughts.
1. I think you do have a misunderstanding of the mandate that resulted in the HSR. The committee was not told not to re-examine Scripture on the issue of homosexuality. On the contrary, the committee was to prepare a report with “Discussion outlining how a Reformed hermeneutic does or does not comport with readings of Scripture being employed to endorse what are, for the historic church, ground-breaking conclusions regarding human sexual behavior and identification.” Beyond examining Scripture to evaluate our teaching in light of new readings of Scripture the committee was also told to interact with “arguments about a new movement of the Spirit (e.g., Acts 15), as well as conclusions arising from scientific and social scientific studies.” I don’t believe one can accurately characterize that as clearly avoiding re-examining Biblical teaching. We had that macro conversation, it just concluded in a manner or with a conclusion that is not to the liking of some. Seeing through a glass dimly does not mean we cannot know truth – if that was the case we would have nothing upon which to base our faith.
“Any expectations we might have about the "unchastity" of homosexuals needs to be applied to the unchastity of heterosexuals who use pornography.” Yes, and amen, and so concluded the HSR and Synod. You can be entirely sure that when churches know of commitment to and engagement with pornography, they are addressing it as a matter of unchastity. You can be entirely sure that if a movement arose to codify the acceptance and normalization of pornography, the CRC would react by reiterating the teaching of Scripture and emphasizing our understanding of all unchastity being prohibited in the seventh commandment as explained in the catechism. Indeed all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, but Paul explains further in I Corinthians that “such were some of you” and our lives are not to be defined by those patterns of sin any longer. Yes, total depravity is real and affects us all, but thanks be to God he does not leave us in slavery to sin. The homosexual sinner is no worse than the heterosexual sinner, but the remedy for both is repentance, reconciliation, and a life of sanctified growth. I don’t know of any reading of Romans 1 wherein one could conclude that Paul was not condemning sexual immorality. The passage (and its broader context) can (and does) carry more meaning than that, but it inescapably includes that.
2. If you look again at the HSR you will see that each section (pornography, homosexuality, etc.) contains a whole introduction dedicated to examining the topic in light of the cultural context. The HSR is actually soaked in the sort of cultural conversation that you say we have not had. All of the questions you ask following under your second point have been discussed and answered in the HSR and the concluding discussions/decisions of Synod 2022 and 2023.
“Why are we asking homosexuals to practice celibacy (a spiritual gift, according to the Scripture, one which not every one has) while never asking the same sacrifice of hetrosexual members?” First, “we” aren’t asking anything, God is. It is God’s Word that instructs and we follow. Second, it is the teaching of the church based on God’s Word that heterosexual members are called to the same celibacy when living outside of marriage. We teach that, we preach that, we disciple to that, and we attempt to practice that. The ask is the same, though there is no doubt that the challenges are not parallel.
3. As a confessional church we have for our history been quite explicit about what beliefs are necessary for leadership in the CRC. We have always been a church requiring confessional subscription for office bearers. That is not new or in question. A “commitment to Jesus” demands to know just who this Jesus is and what he has done for us. These questions and many more naturally follow, and are worked out in our creeds and confessions. One does not (should not) end up an office bearer in the CRC without knowledge of and accedence to these statements of belief, including the entirety of the Canons. If someone is an office bearer in the CRC without this knowledge or fealty then they have borne false witness in signing the Covenant for Officebearers.
The moral standards that we seek to live by and hold each other accountable to are the standards of God’s moral law. We are not left to flounder or wonder in this area. God in his grace has established for us what a holy and upright life looks like. Like the great apostle Paul we confess our inability to live to this standard perfectly. So, the person addicted to pornography cannot go on sinning with impunity, but must strive to bring their desires and habits in line with God’s holy will. So long as they strive in this way they can be members in good standing. Should they insist that they need not strive, they ought to be corrected by their brothers and sisters. This is the Biblical pattern and the moral imperative of our life together in the church. It’s the only kind of church that I want to be a member of: a church that loves me enough to hold me accountable and correct me when I need correction.
I would suggest to you that we have had each of those macro conversations. These questions are not new and have been wrestled with for generations. May God grant that we demonstrate the willingness to submit ourselves to the authority, judgement, and government of the church on these and other matters as we each have committed as members and also again for those of us as office bearers.
Thanks for the response. You may be thinking of someone else as a fellow chaplain, as I am but a layperson, an elder in season but currently out of season. I serve in Classis Minnkota.
When you say "the issue has clearly not been resolved" it makes me wonder what signs you would look for to determine that it has been resolved. If by "resolved" you mean something resembling unanimity, I suspect we will not arrive at that. It seems to me that the existence of disagreement does not render a matter unresolved. Synod did seek and find resolution of the doctrinal questions that had arisen. Now Synod is continuing the work of seeing that our doctrinal understanding (not changed, but consistent with our entire history) means something in the life of the church.
As to submission, it has to have meaning. If submission can mean that you publicly disagree with, disparage, and call into question the validity of the decision of a body, then it may not have much meaning at all. You and I both (as office bearers) vowed to promote and defend the doctrine of the church. If you are doing so in this instance, it is not clear to me how you are doing so. That's not judgmentalism, that's just taking words to mean things. I'm not accusing you of sin, I'm simply speaking of the commitments that we make of our own volition. Our oaths and vows before the Lord are heavy matters, not to be taken lightly or tossed aside easily. Submission is easy when we agree but is tested when we disagree. Is submission at all meaningful if it only comes into play when we agree and then is discarded when disagreement arises? How is there honor and integrity in that approach?
You seem to almost speak as if something was done to you by the denomination, but it is you who have changed (unless you always accepted the chastity of homosexual sex), not the denomination. WICO is not confessional because it is not in the confessions. Adultery and our understanding of chastity/unchastity very much is in our confession. If the words of the confessions have no meaning, then what is the purpose of a confession? It is not the historically orthodox in the CRC who have sought to redefine a word in the confession. There has never been a time in the history of the CRC when homosexual sex could be defined as chaste. Recognizing that is not an invention or something foisted unfairly on office bearers heretofore uninformed of that reality.
You appeal to abuse of authority and seem to accuse the Synods of 2022 and 2023 of abuse of power/authority. On what standard do you base that? What is abusive about interpreting and applying the plain language of our confessions? Again, it is not the church that has shifted, but those who no longer agree with the longstanding doctrine of the church. The Covenant for Officebearers (or the former Form of Subscription) is a defining feature of our covenantal life together - it's not novel. It seems plain that for those who refuse to give the submission that they once vowed they are making evident that they don't desire to exist in covenant any longer. That is a painful, if inescapable, conclusion it seems to me.
I wholeheartedly agree with you when you pose this relevant and important question: “Where do we need to tear down the walls of "the Fort," walls of tradition that inhibit our effectiveness in reaching out to others, and where must we keep and even strengthen the walls because they define who we are.” I frankly don’t think there is ever a time when this question is not relevant – we will/should have this question in the foreground in all of our work/walk. I think this is our apostolic/Berean/Protestant mantle to carry. To this degree I think you have demonstrated that while we may have differing cultural backgrounds we indeed have much in common.
I don’t necessarily disagree with your general sketch of the culture or ethos of rural CRC-dom, and can confirm that the majority of my faith formation occurred in this milieu. What I would push back against is any insinuation or implication that this desire to preserve tradition and skepticism of change is the defining or determining feature of how a classis such as Classis Minnkota comes to hold the positions that it does vis-à-vis sexuality and the proper response of the church to cultural and (in some cases) ecclesiastical changes. I have been in the belly of the beast, as it were, for most of my adult life as it relates to wrestling with questions of doctrine and life in the church. What I have observed in the rural settings where this wrestling has occurred is not some bland sentimentality, but a concerted (though imperfect) desire and attempt to “Hate what is evil; cling to what is good” (Romans 12:9). The Bible has much to recommend regarding the base impulse to preserve the teaching (tradition) of the church and view novel doctrine with suspicion. To be sure, this impulse can be misused or misguided, but at its core it is a fundamentally biblical impulse that I am glad to have had handed down to me.
In the end I am blessed that God has called me to a family of believers, because by myself I am prone to unbalanced notions of what I must tear down and what I must keep and strengthen. To that extent I think the CRC has been engaging in the exact type of wrestling that you recommend and has done so under her agreed upon process and with her agreed upon authority and boundaries.
It is not for me to define the walls of the tent. It is interesting to me that you reference Isaiah 54 in this conversation, because this is one in the many passages in Scripture that uses the metaphor of husband and wife to depict the relationship between God and his people, as Paul explicates in no uncertain terms for us in Ephesians 5. I think this highlights that God’s designs are not neutral or malleable for us – they have lasting and significant weight and meaning beyond the physical and into the spiritual.
The tent metaphor in this passage is not being used by Isaiah to encourage the Israelites to somehow change the teaching/doctrine/law to draw a wider boundary, but rather to prepare themselves to experience God’s blessing. Israel is compared to a barren woman who has experienced shame and a lack of bounty/blessing – that is why the tent is small, and it was due to their disobedience. God is reminding Israel of his enduring promises to Abraham to make him a blessing to all nations and to make his descendants innumerable. Ironically, it was Israel’s unauthorized “widening” of the tent to take on the practices and habits of the pagan nations around them (notably in the sexual realm) that had brought God’s judgment on them in the first place. Rebellion against God is not the type of tent-widening being referenced in Isaiah 54, but rather God’s providential and sovereign blessing on his people. The post-apostolic church is a dramatic realization of this tent-widening promise made by God.
Is the CRC tent big enough for both of us? Yes! But the CRC’s tent walls are not ours to define – they have been defined by the church together in light of God’s Word. It’s not about what Eric thinks or what Doug thinks. If we place ourselves outside of the tent walls we cannot then look back at the church and decry the church for her lack of inclusivity – it is we who have excluded ourselves. It is my heartfelt desire to dwell with you within these walls, for these are walls of protection and blessing.
I am thankful for your willingness and desire to think and reason together. May God bless you and keep you.
You have offered some very good thoughts and warnings about the limitations and trappings of surveys as a method of listening. Much of it resonates with my experience and observation.
The linked page says that the denomination uses the survey to "listen". I wonder just how much some of the separation and struggle in the CRC would be different if "the denomination" (read: bureaucratic structure) listened more in person at the congregational and classical level and less from offices in Grand Rapids. And yes, diasporic churches would likely also view some of those bureaucratic figures differently as well if allowed interaction that was not mediated through reports, magazines, editorials, and the like.
I don't watch the Super Bowl, so I did not see those particular ads. I have seen their campaign more broadly. Though I share your struggle with the immense sum of money spent on two ads, I have more concern about the campaign in general. I think Natasha Crain's critique hits home on a number of important points. In the end, any Jesus who is not explicitly the Son of God is an empty Jesus.
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Hello Gerald. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words.
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Hi Diane. Thanks for offering your thoughts. I always appreciate the opportunity for conversation, and I appreciate the willingness that you demonstrate here to seek conversation.
If I may begin with words of appreciation. I love your reference to I Cor. 12 – such a special and meaningful verse, and so appropriate for our ongoing reflection. The ramifications of such a view of our life in the church are such that their depth will not be plumbed in our lifetimes. Thank you for this reference and reminder.
I affirm your instinct and assertion that lament is deeper and bigger than saying “I’m sorry”. Certainly Scripture models something much deeper, more personal, more heart-wrenching in its laments. Triteness will not serve us well in lament.
I further appreciate your challenge to grow and learn from others – this is an evergreen challenge in the church and in our personal lives. There never is a bad time to strive for growth and to learn from others, and if we ever cease in these endeavors we will stagnate.
Pivoting a bit, I hope you might consider a few thoughts from a different (to use a popular phrase) “lived experience”.
I am unfamiliar with the dearth of lament that you begin your reflection with. I wonder a bit if you are well-positioned to conclude broadly that “expression of deep pain and hurt and the ability to put words to that suffering and lay it at the feet of Jesus is something most of us do not understand” or that “we do not do it well” (emphases added). My observations along these lines are different, though I will not posit that they are universally applicable. If I may offer a few areas in which I have observed things in contrast to your conclusions.
My first observation relates to my 52 years of church and personal life, which have been rife with the practice of lament. One of the first and most obvious ways that I have seen this in practice has been through the reading, praying, singing, and preaching of the Psalms, many of which are or contain laments. Beyond this we find that the prophets also modeled lament. One of the things I think laments in Scripture include that I see missing from some modern lament is lamenting how we have offended God. Modern laments seem to have plenty of focus on the horizontal (how we have offended each other), but I see less of the vertical (how we have offended God). I think that can be an area of growth for us in the church and certainly in our moment in the CRC. In short, I have observed lament to be much more present and rich than you describe.
My second observation relates to synod, in particular the last three years of synod and your question “Where is the lament?” I was a bit surprised to read your description of the last three years of synod being (somewhat) devoid of lament. I was a delegate to Synod 2022 and observed an abundance of lament, be it corporate and public or personal and intimate. Some of us left that synod dubbing it unofficially the Synod of Lament. Prayers and expressions of lament peppered the proceedings, including a prayer of lament from the members of Committee 8 (HSR committee). I attended portions of Synod 2023 and watched other portions online, and I would describe that synod in similar terms. Synod 2024 similarly to my eyes contained significant lament. I did a quick word search of the Acts of Synod 2022 and 2023 and the Agenda for Synod 2024 (the Acts being as of yet unavailable). By way of comparison, the word “praise” appears 55 times in these documents and the word “lament” appears 57 times. This is somewhat anecdotal, but does serve to be illustrative of my observations, even as it (likely) under-reports what actually occurred (as to frequency). Again, lack of lament is not what I observed.
My third observation relates again to the synods of 2022-2024, but not to the proceedings thereof specifically. Rather, I speak here of the “cloud of witnesses” that prayed over these synods. I have rarely observed such petitioned proceedings, as churches and individuals throughout my sphere of observation poured out their hearts before God in repentance, lament, praise, and intercession. In particular I think of a group that I joined regularly (sometimes in person, sometimes in theme/topic while absent) for prayer on a weekly basis over the last three years. I can testify that lament was regular during these times.
I can believe that you long for greater lament, but I would offer that perhaps the lack of lament is not as prevalent as you believe. I will certainly join you in encouraging godly lament and can absolutely agree that the Biblical call to pray without ceasing always convicts us that we have never “arrived” at any perfect or complete pattern of prayer.
I will offer a last challenge in conclusion. You offer a list of laments near the end of your article. I wonder if you would be willing to reflect on other laments that you have excluded. It seems to me that it is entirely appropriate not just to lament our current malaise and pain, but also what led to these conditions. Can we say we lament…
I cannot envision a lament that is pleasing to God that begins and ends on the horizontal, with broken human relationships. It seems to me that we must acknowledge and lament our sins before God that have led to a position where we need to lament broken human relationships. Ultimately all of our lament and brokenness finds its root in the brokenness of our relationship with God, and that deserves our greatest lament.
I am again thankful that you have opened up this topic and thank you in advance for any longsuffering you may have in engaging or considering my responsive thoughts.
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"As Christ followers we lament with hope of Jesus' return, and it's good to say together, Come Lord Jesus, come quickly."
Amen.
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Hi Justin,
I appreciate you thinking out loud and sharing your thoughts with others. I think there are some valuable principles in what you are saying and wisdom to heed.
You did lose me a bit with the red blood cell/white blood cell distinction and your assertion that the purpose of Synod is being missed. I'm not sure I concur on that, at least as broadly as you assert it.
With Lloyd above, I'm also of the mind that you overstate when you say "Each delegate takes the stand to plead their just cause on behalf of their constituents back home." I think you are exercising a bit of unhealthy psychologizing, just plain unflattering guessing, or perhaps unhelpful projection. It seems likely that some people may be tempted to "play to the camera" to a degree and perhaps consider who back home is listening. But I think you state things in much more (derogatively) absolute terms and dismiss the wisdom and maturity of many seasoned church members who do come in good conscience and rise to speak in deliberative fashion out of that conscience. That was my experience in 2022 as a delegate and my observation in the gallery in 2023. I think you are wrong to conclude that "Frankly, the last two years of Synod (in particular) have had a lot more in common with congress than the Acts 15 model of church leadership." I think this is an unhelpfully totalizing and dismissive assessment that does not seem to follow your later godly advice to "assume the best of one another".
My purpose here is not to dismiss your valid points but to work together to sharpen our collective thinking, as also seems to be your goal.
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Hi Justin,
Thanks for continuing the conversation. For some reason I see no reply from you to Lloyd, so I don't have the benefit of reading and understanding that reply. I think you are making a bit of leap in your comparisons. Synod is not akin to a basketball team or a private family matter. All private confidential matters handled at Synod are in fact done in strict executive session. Everything else concerns our common life together. I disagree that our deliberations at Synod are akin to my serious concern about my spouse or a close personal friend. Those are apples and oranges. So I disagree with you that I should feel bad for speaking openly at Synod on matters that concern the corporate body. You seem to be implying that at Synod we mainly speak about persons. But we don't - in fact it is dissuaded and in some cases we are instructed to approach the President of Synod before ever mentioning a name.
I will stand behind my critique of your quotes, including how you characterized the business or atmosphere of Synod. I think it was wrong and unhelpful of you to accuse the Synod delegates of universally ("each") pleading the cause to their constituents back home instead of being deliberative. I think it was wrong and unhelpful for you to say that the last two years of Synod have borne more similarity to congress than to biblical leadership. I disagree with those assessments and find them unhelpful and distracting to your points where I do find common cause.
As to your concluding questions:
1) I'll assume by "goal" you mean the goal of synodical deliberations. But here I reject your framing. Nothing has to do with who I do or do not "disagree with". That makes things personal to me, and my opinions are not the point. The doctrine of the Word as agreed upon by the church is the point. Also, you present a false choice. Discipline (which unfortunately we are having to speak of regularly at Synod these days) is about both correcting and (when necessary) pruning (C.O. Article 78). The pruning depends on whether or not the correction is heeded. Currently we are seeing a significant lack of heeding correction, which is not encouraging.
2) Leading up to Synod 2022 many churches and classes pleaded passionately with GRE and Neland Ave to turn from their error. I would want this personal and heartfelt pleading. Synod 2022 formed a committee to walk alongside Neland and GRE and guide them. I would want this personal and wise counsel. Synod 2023 took up (but failed to pass) a recommendation for further guidance for Neland and GRE. I would want this further guidance. In fact, when I testified about the HSR on the floor of synod in 2022 my approach and appeal was that the HSR was written for me, that it first speaks to my sin and my temptations, and that I need a church that is willing to hold me to account, to correct me when I am straying. This was my plea and it was an honest plea. I can't imagine feeling loved by a church that would withhold correction from me.
3) We have applied some of the above in (and outside of) Synod, but as noted Synod 2023 failed to faithfully continue in the oversight and correction started in 2022. I think that was not to Synod 2023's credit, and that needs to be remedied. When I was at Synod as a delegate and observer in 2022 and 2023 what I saw was a body agonizing over hard decisions. I saw no callousness, no cruelty, not harshness. I saw gentleness and continued expressions of love. Perfect love? No, that we have yet to exhibit or observe on this side of eternity.
Thanks again for the conversation. These are matters that are worth discussing.
Posted in: Crucial Conversations at Synod, Part II
Hi Justin,
Once again, I don't accept the framing of your question. First, I note that you again pose a false choice. Second, the phraseology of "be right" is unhelpful. I would offer that what I am much of the church are striving for is faithfulness, not a sense or idea of being right. And faithfulness need not be pitted against success as you do in your question. If we are faithful we will achieve exactly as much success as God desires for us, and that "success" may not look like what we desire or envision.
Certainly all of our decisions impact people, that is unavoidable. But that does not mean that in our deliberations we are talking about (specific, individual) people, except on very rare occasions. I think perhaps you overvalue the "step up" from a body of nearly 200 people to that same body with a gallery and cameras. For most elders and deacons, unpracticed as many of us are at public speaking, 200 people could just as well be 2000 people. The gallery and cameras don't up the ante that much. It's not as if 200 people is an intimate group where one feels the safety of privacy. To that degree I don't think privatizing Synod would have much of an effect.
As for further communication, I would counter-propose a both/and. I think a purpose of the Network is to hear each other and discuss publicly for the benefit of the broader group. I am perhaps more reluctant to pull back from public conversation. Having said that I would be only too glad to make your acquaintance more personally if you would find that helpful. I can be reached at [email protected]. Thanks for the conversation thus far.
Eric
Posted in: Crucial Conversations at Synod, Part II
Hi Doug,
You can count me as one who is glad that you offered your thoughts despite hesitation. I certainly don’t have all the answers, but I think that the church we are a part of does have answers to a lot of your questions below. I would challenge your framing assertion that the decision of Synod 2022 “was motivated more by a desire to reduce the anxiety in the church than to more effectively minister to members of the LBGTQ community.” As a delegate to Synod 2022 I can confirm that there was a level of anxiety involved in the decision making, but the anxiety was precisely because of the significant ramifications for effective ministry. It was a decision bathed in prayer and motivated by love for God and neighbor.
As to your 3 main points, I would offer a few thoughts.
1. I think you do have a misunderstanding of the mandate that resulted in the HSR. The committee was not told not to re-examine Scripture on the issue of homosexuality. On the contrary, the committee was to prepare a report with “Discussion outlining how a Reformed hermeneutic does or does not comport with readings of Scripture being employed to endorse what are, for the historic church, ground-breaking conclusions regarding human sexual behavior and identification.” Beyond examining Scripture to evaluate our teaching in light of new readings of Scripture the committee was also told to interact with “arguments about a new movement of the Spirit (e.g., Acts 15), as well as conclusions arising from scientific and social scientific studies.” I don’t believe one can accurately characterize that as clearly avoiding re-examining Biblical teaching. We had that macro conversation, it just concluded in a manner or with a conclusion that is not to the liking of some. Seeing through a glass dimly does not mean we cannot know truth – if that was the case we would have nothing upon which to base our faith.
“Any expectations we might have about the "unchastity" of homosexuals needs to be applied to the unchastity of heterosexuals who use pornography.” Yes, and amen, and so concluded the HSR and Synod. You can be entirely sure that when churches know of commitment to and engagement with pornography, they are addressing it as a matter of unchastity. You can be entirely sure that if a movement arose to codify the acceptance and normalization of pornography, the CRC would react by reiterating the teaching of Scripture and emphasizing our understanding of all unchastity being prohibited in the seventh commandment as explained in the catechism. Indeed all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, but Paul explains further in I Corinthians that “such were some of you” and our lives are not to be defined by those patterns of sin any longer. Yes, total depravity is real and affects us all, but thanks be to God he does not leave us in slavery to sin. The homosexual sinner is no worse than the heterosexual sinner, but the remedy for both is repentance, reconciliation, and a life of sanctified growth. I don’t know of any reading of Romans 1 wherein one could conclude that Paul was not condemning sexual immorality. The passage (and its broader context) can (and does) carry more meaning than that, but it inescapably includes that.
2. If you look again at the HSR you will see that each section (pornography, homosexuality, etc.) contains a whole introduction dedicated to examining the topic in light of the cultural context. The HSR is actually soaked in the sort of cultural conversation that you say we have not had. All of the questions you ask following under your second point have been discussed and answered in the HSR and the concluding discussions/decisions of Synod 2022 and 2023.
“Why are we asking homosexuals to practice celibacy (a spiritual gift, according to the Scripture, one which not every one has) while never asking the same sacrifice of hetrosexual members?” First, “we” aren’t asking anything, God is. It is God’s Word that instructs and we follow. Second, it is the teaching of the church based on God’s Word that heterosexual members are called to the same celibacy when living outside of marriage. We teach that, we preach that, we disciple to that, and we attempt to practice that. The ask is the same, though there is no doubt that the challenges are not parallel.
3. As a confessional church we have for our history been quite explicit about what beliefs are necessary for leadership in the CRC. We have always been a church requiring confessional subscription for office bearers. That is not new or in question. A “commitment to Jesus” demands to know just who this Jesus is and what he has done for us. These questions and many more naturally follow, and are worked out in our creeds and confessions. One does not (should not) end up an office bearer in the CRC without knowledge of and accedence to these statements of belief, including the entirety of the Canons. If someone is an office bearer in the CRC without this knowledge or fealty then they have borne false witness in signing the Covenant for Officebearers.
The moral standards that we seek to live by and hold each other accountable to are the standards of God’s moral law. We are not left to flounder or wonder in this area. God in his grace has established for us what a holy and upright life looks like. Like the great apostle Paul we confess our inability to live to this standard perfectly. So, the person addicted to pornography cannot go on sinning with impunity, but must strive to bring their desires and habits in line with God’s holy will. So long as they strive in this way they can be members in good standing. Should they insist that they need not strive, they ought to be corrected by their brothers and sisters. This is the Biblical pattern and the moral imperative of our life together in the church. It’s the only kind of church that I want to be a member of: a church that loves me enough to hold me accountable and correct me when I need correction.
I would suggest to you that we have had each of those macro conversations. These questions are not new and have been wrestled with for generations. May God grant that we demonstrate the willingness to submit ourselves to the authority, judgement, and government of the church on these and other matters as we each have committed as members and also again for those of us as office bearers.
Eric
Posted in: Crucial Conversations at Synod, Part II
Hi Doug,
Thanks for the response. You may be thinking of someone else as a fellow chaplain, as I am but a layperson, an elder in season but currently out of season. I serve in Classis Minnkota.
When you say "the issue has clearly not been resolved" it makes me wonder what signs you would look for to determine that it has been resolved. If by "resolved" you mean something resembling unanimity, I suspect we will not arrive at that. It seems to me that the existence of disagreement does not render a matter unresolved. Synod did seek and find resolution of the doctrinal questions that had arisen. Now Synod is continuing the work of seeing that our doctrinal understanding (not changed, but consistent with our entire history) means something in the life of the church.
As to submission, it has to have meaning. If submission can mean that you publicly disagree with, disparage, and call into question the validity of the decision of a body, then it may not have much meaning at all. You and I both (as office bearers) vowed to promote and defend the doctrine of the church. If you are doing so in this instance, it is not clear to me how you are doing so. That's not judgmentalism, that's just taking words to mean things. I'm not accusing you of sin, I'm simply speaking of the commitments that we make of our own volition. Our oaths and vows before the Lord are heavy matters, not to be taken lightly or tossed aside easily. Submission is easy when we agree but is tested when we disagree. Is submission at all meaningful if it only comes into play when we agree and then is discarded when disagreement arises? How is there honor and integrity in that approach?
You seem to almost speak as if something was done to you by the denomination, but it is you who have changed (unless you always accepted the chastity of homosexual sex), not the denomination. WICO is not confessional because it is not in the confessions. Adultery and our understanding of chastity/unchastity very much is in our confession. If the words of the confessions have no meaning, then what is the purpose of a confession? It is not the historically orthodox in the CRC who have sought to redefine a word in the confession. There has never been a time in the history of the CRC when homosexual sex could be defined as chaste. Recognizing that is not an invention or something foisted unfairly on office bearers heretofore uninformed of that reality.
You appeal to abuse of authority and seem to accuse the Synods of 2022 and 2023 of abuse of power/authority. On what standard do you base that? What is abusive about interpreting and applying the plain language of our confessions? Again, it is not the church that has shifted, but those who no longer agree with the longstanding doctrine of the church. The Covenant for Officebearers (or the former Form of Subscription) is a defining feature of our covenantal life together - it's not novel. It seems plain that for those who refuse to give the submission that they once vowed they are making evident that they don't desire to exist in covenant any longer. That is a painful, if inescapable, conclusion it seems to me.
Thanks again for interacting.
Eric
Posted in: Crucial Conversations at Synod, Part II
Hi Doug,
I wholeheartedly agree with you when you pose this relevant and important question: “Where do we need to tear down the walls of "the Fort," walls of tradition that inhibit our effectiveness in reaching out to others, and where must we keep and even strengthen the walls because they define who we are.” I frankly don’t think there is ever a time when this question is not relevant – we will/should have this question in the foreground in all of our work/walk. I think this is our apostolic/Berean/Protestant mantle to carry. To this degree I think you have demonstrated that while we may have differing cultural backgrounds we indeed have much in common.
I don’t necessarily disagree with your general sketch of the culture or ethos of rural CRC-dom, and can confirm that the majority of my faith formation occurred in this milieu. What I would push back against is any insinuation or implication that this desire to preserve tradition and skepticism of change is the defining or determining feature of how a classis such as Classis Minnkota comes to hold the positions that it does vis-à-vis sexuality and the proper response of the church to cultural and (in some cases) ecclesiastical changes. I have been in the belly of the beast, as it were, for most of my adult life as it relates to wrestling with questions of doctrine and life in the church. What I have observed in the rural settings where this wrestling has occurred is not some bland sentimentality, but a concerted (though imperfect) desire and attempt to “Hate what is evil; cling to what is good” (Romans 12:9). The Bible has much to recommend regarding the base impulse to preserve the teaching (tradition) of the church and view novel doctrine with suspicion. To be sure, this impulse can be misused or misguided, but at its core it is a fundamentally biblical impulse that I am glad to have had handed down to me.
In the end I am blessed that God has called me to a family of believers, because by myself I am prone to unbalanced notions of what I must tear down and what I must keep and strengthen. To that extent I think the CRC has been engaging in the exact type of wrestling that you recommend and has done so under her agreed upon process and with her agreed upon authority and boundaries.
It is not for me to define the walls of the tent. It is interesting to me that you reference Isaiah 54 in this conversation, because this is one in the many passages in Scripture that uses the metaphor of husband and wife to depict the relationship between God and his people, as Paul explicates in no uncertain terms for us in Ephesians 5. I think this highlights that God’s designs are not neutral or malleable for us – they have lasting and significant weight and meaning beyond the physical and into the spiritual.
The tent metaphor in this passage is not being used by Isaiah to encourage the Israelites to somehow change the teaching/doctrine/law to draw a wider boundary, but rather to prepare themselves to experience God’s blessing. Israel is compared to a barren woman who has experienced shame and a lack of bounty/blessing – that is why the tent is small, and it was due to their disobedience. God is reminding Israel of his enduring promises to Abraham to make him a blessing to all nations and to make his descendants innumerable. Ironically, it was Israel’s unauthorized “widening” of the tent to take on the practices and habits of the pagan nations around them (notably in the sexual realm) that had brought God’s judgment on them in the first place. Rebellion against God is not the type of tent-widening being referenced in Isaiah 54, but rather God’s providential and sovereign blessing on his people. The post-apostolic church is a dramatic realization of this tent-widening promise made by God.
Is the CRC tent big enough for both of us? Yes! But the CRC’s tent walls are not ours to define – they have been defined by the church together in light of God’s Word. It’s not about what Eric thinks or what Doug thinks. If we place ourselves outside of the tent walls we cannot then look back at the church and decry the church for her lack of inclusivity – it is we who have excluded ourselves. It is my heartfelt desire to dwell with you within these walls, for these are walls of protection and blessing.
I am thankful for your willingness and desire to think and reason together. May God bless you and keep you.
Eric
Posted in: Congregational Feedback: Surveys vs. Listening Circles
Hi Sean,
You have offered some very good thoughts and warnings about the limitations and trappings of surveys as a method of listening. Much of it resonates with my experience and observation.
I wonder, have you shared this perspective within the CRC denominational organization? Denominational Survey | Christian Reformed Church (crcna.org)
The linked page says that the denomination uses the survey to "listen". I wonder just how much some of the separation and struggle in the CRC would be different if "the denomination" (read: bureaucratic structure) listened more in person at the congregational and classical level and less from offices in Grand Rapids. And yes, diasporic churches would likely also view some of those bureaucratic figures differently as well if allowed interaction that was not mediated through reports, magazines, editorials, and the like.
Posted in: Where Did You Worship This Past Sunday?
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Posted in: 'He Gets Us' Super Bowl Commercials - What Did You Think?
Hi Staci,
I don't watch the Super Bowl, so I did not see those particular ads. I have seen their campaign more broadly. Though I share your struggle with the immense sum of money spent on two ads, I have more concern about the campaign in general. I think Natasha Crain's critique hits home on a number of important points. In the end, any Jesus who is not explicitly the Son of God is an empty Jesus.
7 Problems with the He Gets Us Campaign | Natasha Crain