Diane Ritzema

Angela,
In our church, we recognize the day with prayers for mothers/fathers, and also for mother and father figures. We are also sensitive to those who cannot have children, so we pray for them as well. We generally give a small gift (bookmark, pen, keychain...) to ALL women or men on their respective days, recognizing that we have all promised at the time of baptism to nurture the children of our church.

"Holy Spirit" by Keith and Kristyn Getty (© 2006 Thankyou music/Adm. by worshiptogether.com songs) is one of my favorites. I found it for use at Pentecost a couple of years ago, and now use it throughout the year. We also sing "Holy Spirit, Reign Down" by Russell Fragar (© 1997 Russell Fragar/Hillsongs Publishing). This one has more of a gospel feel. Hope this helps!

Grace Community CRC in Oak Lawn, IL.

 

Hi all! I'm a Worship Coordinator -- so my job includes planning worship (all aspects, not just music, but liturgy as well).  I'm also one of 2 organists for our church, a pianist, violinist (when I schedule myself...), vocalist, leader of the praise team, and I LOVE doing it all! 

FYI--the link above doesn't work. I get "Access denied".  Can't wait to see what's happening with the new logo!

Grace Community CRC in Oak Lawn, IL will hold a Blue Christmas service this coming Sunday morning.  We have tried having them on Sunday late afternoon or evening, or a weeknight, but didn't have very many people attend.  Our whole sermon series this year is "When Advent Doesn't Feel Like Christmas" (RW45), so we thought the Blue Christmas service fit well with the theme.  We are not using the RW suggested service this week. Instead, below is what our service will look like.  There are a couple of opportunities for extra participation.  We will give each person a nametag to wear during the service. On that nametag, they are to write the name of someone they are missing this Advent, or the situation they are feeling weighed down by (loss of job, loss of health, etc.)  We will also have star shaped post-it notes in the pews, and later in the service we will ask the congregants to write on a star their concerns for themselves or others. At the end of the service they will "let go" of these concerns by putting them on large sheets of paper on the side walls of our sanctuary.

 

Prelude                                                                                              Diane Ritzema

Welcome –explain name tags

We gather in a spirit of somber remembrance.  While the rest of the world seems to celebrating the joyous occasion, we come to manger with feelings of loneliness and loss, and our heart cries out help me be strong, help me.   I invite each of you this morning not to hide those feelings, but embrace them, realizing that they may bring you closer to the real Christmas story.

 

This morning we remember the true story helpless babe born into a world that was struggling, a world that was questioning where was God, and world crying out why?  The helpless babe born in cold stone room, to a family that was poor, tired, and frightened.   The helpless babe who would change all this for the world.

 

We Gather in God’s Presence

 

(all) Lord, you are the God who saves me; day and night I cry out to you. May my prayer come before you; turn your ear to my cry.  I am overwhelmed with troubles, and my life draws near to death.  I am counted among those who go down to the pit; I am like one without strength. (Psalm 88:1-4)

           

Christ Candle is Lit

 

(Leader) The people walking in darkness have seen a great light; on those living in the land of deep darkness a light has dawned … For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders.  And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.  Of the greatness of his government and peace there will be no end. (Isaiah 9:2 & 6-7)

 

Song: Come, Thou Long-Expected Jesus        PsH 329

God’s Greeting/Mutual Greetings

 

We Remember and Seek Comfort

 

Psalm 22

(All read the boldface verses together.)

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

Why are you so far from helping me, so far from the words of my groaning?

O my God, I cry by day but you do not answer,

and by night, but I find no rest.

In you, our ancestors trusted. They trusted and you delivered them.

It was you who brought me from the womb,

you who kept me safe on my mother's breast.

Since my mother bore me, you have been my God.

Do not be far from me, for trouble is near and there is no one to help.

God does not despise the affliction of the afflicted.

God does not hide from me.

When I cry to God, God hears me.

Thanks be to God.

 

                        Comfort, Comfort Now My People  PsH 194

Psalm 23

The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
   He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
   he refreshes my soul.
He guides me along the right paths
    for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk
    through the darkest valley,
I will fear no evil,
    for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
    they comfort me.

You prepare a table before me
    in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
    my cup overflows.
Surely your goodness and love will follow me
    all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
    forever.

 

Memory Stars – (In benches)

You are invited to write on each star your concerns for others or your own concerns.

 

Candle Lighting: A Litany of Remembrance

First Candle: Persons who have been loved and lost

We light the first Advent candle and remember those persons who have been loved and lost.  We pause to remember their names, their faces, their voices.  We give thanks for the memory that binds them to us in this season.

Lord, surround us all with your eternal love. 

  

All sing: O come, O Come, Immanuel, and ransom captive Israel,

That mourns in lonely exile here until the Son of God appear. 

Rejoice!  Rejoice!  Immanuel shall come to you, O Israel.

 

      (silence)

 

Word of comfort: Psalm 103:13, 17

As a father has compassion on his children,
so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him;
for he knows how we are formed,

he remembers that we are dust.

But from everlasting to everlasting
the Lord’s love is with those who fear him,
and his righteousness with their children’s children

 

Second Candle: Pain of Loss

We light a second candle mindful of the pain of loss: the loss of relationships, the loss of jobs, the loss of health, the loss of joy.  As we gather up the pain of the past, we offer it to you, O God, asking that into our open hands you will place the gift of peace.

Hold, help, heal us, O God.

 

All sing: O come, O Bright and Morning Star, and bring us comfort from afar!

Dispel the shadows of the night.  And turn our darkness into light.

Rejoice!  Rejoice!  Immanuel shall come to you, O Israel.

 

(silence)

 

Word of Comfort: Psalm 139:11-12 (NLT)

I could ask the darkness to hide me
and the light around me to become night—
but even in darkness I cannot hide from you.
To you the night shines as bright as day.
Darkness and light are the same to you.

 

Third Candle: Time of Loss

We light a third candle to remember the time of our loss.  We pause and remember the past weeks, months and, for some of us, years of difficult days and lonely nights.  We remember time’s passing that has seemed heavy and slow; we remember time’s passing that has seems to sweep us and our memories away. 

Our times are in your hand, O LORD.  Remember us and bless us.

 

All sing: O come, O Key of David, come and open wide our heavenly home

Make safe for us the heavenward road and bar the way to death’s abode.

Rejoice!  Rejoice!  Immanuel shall come to you, O Israel.

 

(silence)

 

Word of Comfort: Isaiah 41:10 (NLT)

Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.

 

Fourth Candle: Remember others suffering with us

We light a fourth candle to remember all who have shared in our sorrow.   We thank you for their compassion, for their presence with us in times when our hurt went deeper than words could express.  We remember that you, Lord, came to sympathize with our weakness and to carry our sorrows. 

We thank you for those who held us and pointed to your light.

 

All sing: O come, O King of Nations, bind in one the hearts of all mankind.

Bid all our sad divisions cease and be yourself our King of Peace.

Rejoice!  Rejoice!  Immanuel shall come to you, O Israel.

 

(silence)

 

Word of Comfort: Matthew 5:4 and 7

Blessed are those who mourn, for the will be comforted. 

Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.

 

 

We Hear God’s Word

Scripture: Luke 3:1-6

Message: When Advent Doesn’t Feel Like Christmas: Travel God’s Highway

 

We Respond in Hope

                        Hark, the Glad Sound! The Savior Comes  PsH 335 v. 1,3

 

                        He Who is Mighty

 

Prayer of Hope  Prayers of the People – Pastor Kooy

 

This season reminds us of what used to be but is no more.  Memories of what was, and the fear of what may be, keep us from the joy of today.  All around are the sounds of celebration, but joy eludes us.  Be near us today.

Loving God, hear our prayer,

     and in your merciful love, answer.

 

In this season of Advent waiting, we bring you those sorrows and longings too deep for words.  Hear the groans of our heart and tend us with your comfort and grace.

Loving God, hear our prayer,

     and in your merciful love, answer.

 

In the silence, we bring you our own words of need, our own words of hope. 

(pause)

 

We pray for the needs of your world.

            (Pastor Kooy prays.  Concluding with … )

 

Let our fears of the darkness of the world and of our own lives rest in you.   In the quietness of this hour, may your peace enfold us and all dear to us, and all who have no peace.  Keep us in the truth that the night is nearly over; the day is almost here.  We look expectantly to a new day, to new joys. 

Loving God, hear our prayer,

     and in your mercy, answer.  Amen

 

Word of Hope (Psalm 33:22 and Isaiah 40:31 and Romans 15:13)

May your unfailing love be with us, Lord, even as we put our hope in you.

 

those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

 

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

 

Offering  -- Mary, Did You Know                Pedro Kialanda

We Depart in Peace

 

*Song of Peace: Silent Night

 

While we sing Silent Night,

all who wish are welcome to place their Memory Stars on a banner on the side walls.

 

* Benediction: 1 Peter 5:10-11

And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.  To him be the power forever and ever. Amen.

 

Depart in silence

Options for Contemporary settings--check out Wendell Kimbrough at http://www.wendellk.com/songbook/  He makes a free digital copy of the songbook available. He writes specifically for congregational singing, but in a very easy to use format.  I also have used contemporary arrangements by Sandra McCracken  http://www.sandramccracken.com/psalms/. We use a variety of Psalms in our worship when they fit the theme.  Currently we are in a series on David, so we are singing/reading many Psalms of David every week. Hope these resources help!

 

This reminds me of a Sunday School program our children were in --probably 20 years ago.  It included decorating a birthday cake for Jesus. Each item that went on the cake--frosting, candles, different colored candies, etc. had a spiritual meaning--with a Bible verse and song, but I can't quite remember them all.  I'm sure some creative person could easily put this together!  It was very meaningful for the children, and also the adults. At the end of the program we sang Happy Birthday and then all had cake together.  For many years after that, while the children were still in the nest, we made a birthday cake for Jesus every year at Christmas.

This is great!  One more note that goes with #7:  Not only do we tell them that we love them, but we also ask them if they want hugs. Many of our women are older and are living alone. They mention often that Coffee Break is one of the only places they feel a hug each week, and it keeps them coming back.  Of course, we need to be sensitive, and always ask first. 

I have read and recommend "True Worshipers: Seeking What Matters to God" by Bob Kauflin. You can also buy a study guide to go with the book.  We haven't used this with our Worship Committee, but it is on my radar to study it together in the future. 

We honor all women on Mother's Day with a small gift of some sort-- a keychain, bookmark, or something like that.  We used to do flowers, but there are many in our congregation who are allergic, so now use a different token of our appreciation.  We also make sure to include compassion for those for whom the day is difficult--those who wish to be mothers, those who have lost their mothers, or those who have had difficult relationships with their mothers, etc.  We usually include this in our Prayers of the People.