Thanks so much for this post, Staci! I'm thankful for Rachel's voice and the call for all of us to care enough to listen and believe - especially to those who are in vulnerable positions. It is powerful to connect the stories of those who have been victimized to the birth of Jesus, through a vulnerable girl, Mary, who I'm sure very few believed.
Thanks for your reflections on the past 25 years, Bonnie! If anyone would like to dig into the Abuse of Power report that will be considered for synod this year, check out the supplement to the agenda here (You can find the specific recommendations on page 12 and on page 50-78 is the full report).
Thanks for sharing, Dave! I'm not always a fan of labeling and boxing in particular generations. However, technology and culture are always changing and creating different experiences to children who grew up then vs now. And, it is the work of us, the church, to deeply see how the Spirit is calling us to share and be good news to all.
I like Regional Assembly. I'm tired of explaining to my colleagues from outside the CRC that a Classis is a group of local churches - sometimes I even say, its latin for ships sailing together. A neat metaphor, however, I am a fan of names of things to be descriptive of what they actually are. We are not ships anymore (were we ever?)... and after doing a bit more research it seems its origin is more of that found in roman military than anything else... is it inherently imperialistic? I don't know. But, we are established now in this land, and becoming more and more diverse, our minority churches are the fastest growing ones. Perhaps we can be a more hospitable Bi-National Assembly. :)
Mint.com is a great resource for tracking all of your financial accounts, from checkings, savings, credit cards, HSAs, 401ks, and IRAs. Having everything in one place and categorizing helps give some great perspective on exactly how much creeping your lifestyle is causing. It can be great data after tracking it for years - and it automatically creates some visual graphs for you. Seeing this, in my opinion, is a must for creating a sustainable budget.
I get that stereotyping a group is not always helpful - I often feel at a loss with the great and unfortunate divisions of our current society. Yet at the same time, in my opinion, when there is need for cultural change, shining a bit of light on an empirical generalization with a statistical basis - is necessary.
I do agree with our article here that violence against women should no longer be seen as a "women's issue." We need a paradigm shift to it being seen as a "men's issue."
From what I understand, there was some good paradigm shifting legislation in 1994, [VAWA] Violence Against Women Act which was drafted by Biden and passed with bipartisan support. However.... due to government shutdown, that act has now expired.....
And, yes, any person can be a victim of violence, no matter their gender. There are always so many stories that are difficult to understand and quantify. However, we also need to step back out of our own personal experiences and understand greater cultural narratives and norms.
These stats are indicative of that:
• 72% of all murder-suicides involve an intimate partner; 94% of the victims of these crimes are female." (NCADV Michigan)
• 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, (ncadv.org/statistics)
• 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men in the United States has been raped in their lifetime. (ncadv.org/statistics)
After hearing Julie Owen's Story in person, (you can view her bio here) and knowing there are so many other women who have also been victimized, we can still do more to create healthy systemic cultural change. I don't see why we should push the pendulum back... and inevitable, even if indirectly, create spaces in which more is at risk for women - who, throughout most of human history, and many still today, did not have the necessary power to remove themselves from horrible situations.
Thanks for posting, Phil! Definitely a lot of reactions people had to this ad... And in the end, I think Gillette got what they were going for: a needed a publicity boost as all these other razor companies are starting up. And I think they received their publicity.
In my opinion, it appears to me as some good ole common grace in action. The spirit is always at work, bringing the kingdom to his creation... Great to see commercials so different from the past. I think its generally a good thing that these corporations deem it beneficial to challenge problematic sexual harassment norms. I don't mind if it comes from my personal favorite razor company, either! :)
I do do hope though, that we who have the fullness of Jesus make an even bigger splash than Gillette... It's just that Jesus' people often do their work under the radar, in the margins, without all the cameras, and $.
A lot we can learn from Jackson Katz here about how we can become the body of Christ that stops violence against women. I just saw a poll taken from NPR that said a majority of people in the U.S. are against "political correctness." Personally - I'm tired of that specific word being used to excuse micro-agressions of verbal violence, discrimination and racism. It's not about politics - its about people - bearing the image of God, who are being treated as less than. Here is to hoping and praying that more men to stop ignoring and enabling sin - and for the grace of Jesus and his kingdom to lead to transformation of our neighborhoods, cities and world.
"Those of us who work in the domestic and sexual violence field know that victim-blaming is pervasive in this realm, which is to say, blaming the person to whom something was done rather than the person who did it. And we say: why do they go out with these men?Why are they attracted to them? Why do they keep going back? What was she wearing at that party? What a stupid thing to do. Why was she drinking with those guys in that hotel room? This is victim blaming, and there are many reasons for it, but one is that our cognitive structure is set up to blame victims. This is all unconscious. Our whole cognitive structure is set up to ask questions about women and women's choices and what they're doing, thinking, wearing. And I'm not going to shout down people who ask questions about women. It's a legitimate thing to ask. But's let's be clear: Asking questions about Mary is not going to get us anywhere in terms of preventing violence."
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Thanks so much for this post, Staci! I'm thankful for Rachel's voice and the call for all of us to care enough to listen and believe - especially to those who are in vulnerable positions. It is powerful to connect the stories of those who have been victimized to the birth of Jesus, through a vulnerable girl, Mary, who I'm sure very few believed.
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Looking forward to our ongoing work together in Safe Church Ministry! :)
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Thanks for your reflections on the past 25 years, Bonnie! If anyone would like to dig into the Abuse of Power report that will be considered for synod this year, check out the supplement to the agenda here (You can find the specific recommendations on page 12 and on page 50-78 is the full report).
Posted in: Regional Pastors Bookshelf: The New Copernicans
Thanks for sharing, Dave! I'm not always a fan of labeling and boxing in particular generations. However, technology and culture are always changing and creating different experiences to children who grew up then vs now. And, it is the work of us, the church, to deeply see how the Spirit is calling us to share and be good news to all.
Posted in: Time to Rename Classis?
I like Regional Assembly. I'm tired of explaining to my colleagues from outside the CRC that a Classis is a group of local churches - sometimes I even say, its latin for ships sailing together. A neat metaphor, however, I am a fan of names of things to be descriptive of what they actually are. We are not ships anymore (were we ever?)... and after doing a bit more research it seems its origin is more of that found in roman military than anything else... is it inherently imperialistic? I don't know. But, we are established now in this land, and becoming more and more diverse, our minority churches are the fastest growing ones. Perhaps we can be a more hospitable Bi-National Assembly. :)
Posted in: Don't Let This Creep Near You
Mint.com is a great resource for tracking all of your financial accounts, from checkings, savings, credit cards, HSAs, 401ks, and IRAs. Having everything in one place and categorizing helps give some great perspective on exactly how much creeping your lifestyle is causing. It can be great data after tracking it for years - and it automatically creates some visual graphs for you. Seeing this, in my opinion, is a must for creating a sustainable budget.
Posted in: Gillette: The Best a Man Can Get?
I get that stereotyping a group is not always helpful - I often feel at a loss with the great and unfortunate divisions of our current society. Yet at the same time, in my opinion, when there is need for cultural change, shining a bit of light on an empirical generalization with a statistical basis - is necessary.
I do agree with our article here that violence against women should no longer be seen as a "women's issue." We need a paradigm shift to it being seen as a "men's issue."
Posted in: Gillette: The Best a Man Can Get?
From what I understand, there was some good paradigm shifting legislation in 1994, [VAWA] Violence Against Women Act which was drafted by Biden and passed with bipartisan support. However.... due to government shutdown, that act has now expired.....
And, yes, any person can be a victim of violence, no matter their gender. There are always so many stories that are difficult to understand and quantify. However, we also need to step back out of our own personal experiences and understand greater cultural narratives and norms.
These stats are indicative of that:
• 72% of all murder-suicides involve an intimate partner; 94% of the victims of these crimes are female." (NCADV Michigan)
• 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, (ncadv.org/statistics)
• 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men in the United States has been raped in their lifetime. (ncadv.org/statistics)
After hearing Julie Owen's Story in person, (you can view her bio here) and knowing there are so many other women who have also been victimized, we can still do more to create healthy systemic cultural change. I don't see why we should push the pendulum back... and inevitable, even if indirectly, create spaces in which more is at risk for women - who, throughout most of human history, and many still today, did not have the necessary power to remove themselves from horrible situations.
Posted in: Gillette: The Best a Man Can Get?
Thanks for posting, Phil! Definitely a lot of reactions people had to this ad... And in the end, I think Gillette got what they were going for: a needed a publicity boost as all these other razor companies are starting up. And I think they received their publicity.
In my opinion, it appears to me as some good ole common grace in action. The spirit is always at work, bringing the kingdom to his creation... Great to see commercials so different from the past. I think its generally a good thing that these corporations deem it beneficial to challenge problematic sexual harassment norms. I don't mind if it comes from my personal favorite razor company, either! :)
I do do hope though, that we who have the fullness of Jesus make an even bigger splash than Gillette... It's just that Jesus' people often do their work under the radar, in the margins, without all the cameras, and $.
Posted in: Violence against Women – It’s a Men’s Issue
Thanks for your words here Miriam!
A lot we can learn from Jackson Katz here about how we can become the body of Christ that stops violence against women. I just saw a poll taken from NPR that said a majority of people in the U.S. are against "political correctness." Personally - I'm tired of that specific word being used to excuse micro-agressions of verbal violence, discrimination and racism. It's not about politics - its about people - bearing the image of God, who are being treated as less than. Here is to hoping and praying that more men to stop ignoring and enabling sin - and for the grace of Jesus and his kingdom to lead to transformation of our neighborhoods, cities and world.
Posted in: Violence against Women – It’s a Men’s Issue
QUOTE from the talk:
"Those of us who work in the domestic and sexual violence field know that victim-blaming is pervasive in this realm, which is to say, blaming the person to whom something was done rather than the person who did it. And we say: why do they go out with these men?Why are they attracted to them? Why do they keep going back? What was she wearing at that party? What a stupid thing to do. Why was she drinking with those guys in that hotel room? This is victim blaming, and there are many reasons for it, but one is that our cognitive structure is set up to blame victims. This is all unconscious. Our whole cognitive structure is set up to ask questions about women and women's choices and what they're doing, thinking, wearing. And I'm not going to shout down people who ask questions about women. It's a legitimate thing to ask. But's let's be clear: Asking questions about Mary is not going to get us anywhere in terms of preventing violence."
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Thanks Jane!