The Home Visit: Preparation & Guidelines
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From Guiding the Faith Journey: Appendix 1
Home visitation is a traditional strategy for ministry. At its best, it is a tool that allows the office bearer to encourage spiritual development among members of the congregation. I prepared the following materials for the elders of my previous congregation to use as a guideline in making home visits.
Preparation for a Visit
What takes place within any visit depends in large part on the preparation that occurs before the visit. This involves both the elder and the people he is visiting. What follows is a list of questions to help prepare for such a visit.
The Visit
Before walking through the door, there are certain practices that are important.
The style of the visit depends on a variety of factors:
Finally, we need to keep in mind that what can be accomplished in a single visit is limited. Neither minds nor lifestyles are likely to show dramatic changes. Our expectations ought to be realistic. Our goal is not so much immediate gains as long-term growth.
Follow-up
The success of any visit depends on follow-up. If we wish to encourage steady giving, we need not only gain a person’s assent but regularly encourage and hold a person accountable for promises made. If we want to demonstrate support for a person in crisis, we have to say so—not only in word but by carrying through with more visits and expressions of concern. Follow-up is not just a nice thing to do, but an essential part of the task of an elder.
Sample Visit Plans
Checkup Visit: Guideline 1—Philippians 2:1-13
Approach: In this visit, the elder uses a Bible study to initiate a discussion of the spiritual health of a person. Prior to the visit, the elder requests that the person read this passage and explains that this will be the basis for some personal questions.
Step 1: Arrange for the visit (purpose, time, place, and length); request the reading of the passage.
Step 2: Greet each other. Remember, this is not a get-acquainted visit. Do not spend much time on saying hello (perhaps only 10 percent of the time allotted). Explain the procedure of the visit (the steps). Tell him or her that you will keep an issues sheet handy. An issues sheet is a way of recording matters that are off the current topic but to which you promise to return in this visit or the next.
Step 3: Begin with prayer. Read the passage together.
Step 4: Use the following questions:
Step 5: Becoming Christlike (a mature Christian) requires that we make commitments to our growth. What commitments (one or two) can you make that would help you grow toward Christlikeness? What changes in behavior or attitude are necessary?
Step 6: What can I do to help you? What can the people of the church do?
Step 7: Return to the issues sheet. If you have time, you may discuss some of those matters. Ask if there are other matters to be discussed. Close in prayer.
Step 8: Write down follow-up matters and make another appointment if necessary.
Checkup Visit: Guideline 2—Luke 19:11-27
Approach: In this visit, the elder uses a Bible study to initiate a discussion of the spiritual health of a person. Prior to the visit the elder requests that the person read this passage, explaining that this will be the basis for some personal questions.
Step 1: Arrange for the visit (purpose, time, place, and length); request the reading of the passage.
Step 2: Greet each other. Remember, this is not a get-acquainted visit. Do not spend much time on saying hello (perhaps only 10 percent of the time allotted). Explain the procedure of the visit (the steps). Tell him or her that you will keep an issues sheet handy. An issues sheet is a way of recording matters that are off the current topic but to which you promise to return in this visit or the next.
Step 3: Begin with prayer. Read the passage together.
Step 4: Use the following questions:
Step 5: Becoming Christlike (a mature Christian) requires that we make commitments to our growth. What commitments (one or two) can you make that would help you grow toward Christlikeness? What changes of behavior or attitude are necessary?
Step 6: What can I do to help you? What can the people of the church do?
Step 7: Return to the issues sheet. If you have time, you may discuss some of those matters. Ask if there are other matters to be discussed. Close in prayer.
Step 8: Write down follow-up matters and make another appointment if necessary.
Checkup Visit: Guideline 3—Review of the Year
Approach: In this visit, the elder takes as a starting point particular events in a person’s life, seeking to discern how God has moved in the past and how the Lord is calling at the present time. Prior to the visit, the elder requests that the person prepare by thinking about three significant events of this past year.
Step 1: Arrange for the visit (purpose, time, place, and length); request the reading of the passage.
Step 2: Greet each other. Remember, this is not a get-acquainted visit. Do not spend much time on saying hello (perhaps only 10 percent of the time allotted). Explain the procedure of the visit (the steps). Tell him or her that you will keep an issues sheet handy. An issues sheet is a way of recording matters that are off the current topic but to which you promise to return in this visit or the next.
Step 3: Begin with prayer. List the three significant events. Ask the person to tell the story of the last one of the significant events.
Step 4: Questions to discuss:
Step 5: Bringing in the Scripture. If you were to choose a character from a story or parable in the Scripture, which one would you choose? Why? As we meet today, where do you sense God calling you?
Step 6: Becoming Christlike (a mature Christian) requires that we make commitments to our growth. What commitments (one or two) can you make that would help you listen to this word from the Lord? What changes in behavior or attitude are necessary?
Step 7: What can I do to help you? What can the people of the church do?
Step 8: Return to the issues sheet. If you have time, you may discuss some of those matters. Ask if there are other matters to be discussed. Close in prayer.
Step 9: Write down follow-up matters and make another appointment if necessary.
Family Visit: Guideline 1—For a Family with Young Children
Approach: In this visit the elder arranges to have the entire family together. The elder begins by reading together one of the latest stories the family has read from the children’s Bible. Discussion focuses on what the children are learning.
Step 1: Arrange for the visit (purpose, time, place, length). Ask the family to prepare a list of ten items they believe are important for Christian living.
Step 2: Greet each other. Remember to greet each child by name. Make each child comfortable with you. (Take a candy or a small toy along if you want to.) Do not spend more than 10 percent of your time in getting comfortable. Explain the procedure of the visit. Tell them you will keep an issues sheet handy to allow you to record matters that require further reflection at the end of the visit or in another visit.
Step 3: Pray. Read the children’s story Bible. First, ask factual questions: Did they understand the story? You may find that you need to retell the story in your own words. Then ask reflective questions: "I wonder what it would be like to be David?" Finally, ask listening questions: "What is God saying to us?" "If God were to sit in this room and join us in this conversation, what would he pay attention to and say to us?"
Step 4: Read the list of ten items important for Christian living prepared beforehand by the family. If this has not been done, take the time to do so now. Look at the list. What’s missing? How does the family seek to work this out in family life? Be very pragmatic. What exactly are they doing? If helping others is important, how do they help others?
Step 5: Making commitments is an important way of growing as a Christian. What commitments do they believe God is calling them toward at this time?
Step 6: How can I help you? How can the church help you in your Christian growth?
Step 7: Return to the issues sheet. If you have time, discuss some of these. Add others if necessary. If there are some matters yet to be discussed, arrange for a special meeting. Close in prayer.
Step 8: Write down follow-up items.
Family Visit: Guideline 2—For a Family with Teens
Approach: In this visit the elder arranges to have the entire family together. Discussion focuses on how the children (especially teens) are making personal commitments.
Step 1: Arrange for the visit (purpose, time, place, length).
Step 2: Greet each other. Remember to greet each person by name. Do not spend more than 10 percent of your time getting comfortable. Explain the procedure of the visit. Tell them you will keep an issues sheet handy to allow you to record matters that require further reflection at the end of the visit or in another visit.
Step 3: Read Ephesians 4:17-5:2.
Step 4: Making commitments is an important way of growing as a Christian. What commitments do you believe God is calling you toward at this time?
Step 5: How can I help you? How can the church help you in your Christian growth?
Step 6: Return to the issues sheet. If you have time, discuss some of these. Add others if necessary. If there are some matters yet to be discussed, arrange for a special meeting. Close in prayer.
Step 7:Write down follow-up items.
Group Discussion: Spiritual Growth
Step 1: Read Philippians 2:1-13. Lead in an opening prayer.
Step 2: Remember what it was like to be a teenager. Here are some questions that can help you think about your life as a teenager:
Step 3: Looking at the Christian disciplines, what do you think is different now? The Christian disciplines include prayer, Scripture reading, meditation, study, worship, service, celebration, simplicity, and obedience. (Time will not allow a discussion of all of these.)
Step 4: Give an example of how God has lead you in the past year. How does this help you be more Christlike? How can it lead you toward maturity?
Step 5: In this coming year, what will you do to grow in Christian maturity?
Step 6: Share some items for common prayer. Choose a person to begin the prayer and another to close. Take a few minutes to pray together, allowing time for everyone who wishes to participate.
Group Discussion: Seven Deadly Sins
Step 1: Read Psalm 51. Lead in an opening prayer.
Step 2: The subject for the evening is spiritual growth. Spiritual growth includes at least the following thoughts:
Step 3: Read Philippians 2:12-13. How is God leading you (me) to maturity?
Step 4: Divide a newspaper and/or magazines among the group. Find examples of the seven deadly sins (greed, envy, sloth, pride, lust, gluttony, and anger) as expressed in the media.
Step 5: Listen to Scripture (take the log out of your own eye). In what ways do we find the seven deadly sins come to expression in the church?
Step 6: Remember what it was like to be a teenager. Here are some questions that can help you think about your life as a teenager:
Step 7: Looking at the seven deadly sins, what do you believe is the difference between then and now? (Time will not allow a discussion of all of these.)
Step 8: Confession of sin is often very routine. How can we make confession (I did it) and contrition (I am sorry) a more meaningful part of our lives?
Step 9: Psalm 51 calls us to pray, “create in me a clean heart, O Lord.” What steps can a Christian take to develop “clean” thoughts in a world that promotes “unclean” thoughts?
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